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Am I expecting too much from my 16 y/o sister?  

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OK, long story short, my mom and sister got evicted, and are now living in our 2 bedroom apartment. My sister does NOTHING! I mean, she might play with bella for a few minutes, walk the dog if I ask or bring the mail in, but otherwise... no chores. No dishes, no taking the trash out, nothing. For the most part she cleans up after herself in the bathroom, but... something is driving me crazy. Laundry. My mom, will take half dry clothes out of the dryer, sit them on the sofa to dry my sisters load. We only do FULL loads of laundry to save energy. On average, we were doing 2 loads a day (all cloth family here). Now we are doing about 6 because they only do small loads. So, right now, I have our full load of half wet towels on my sofa, a load in the dryer with about 9 articles of white clothing, a load in the washer with about 5 articles of dark clothing, and now my sister wants to put another load the washer that consists of 3 pairs of thong underwear and a blue mini-skirt. I said, "Missy, you can't keep trumping the laundry like that when we have 4 loads waiting... I haven't been able to do laundry for days." She says, we'll I'm going out this weekend and need clothes. She got huffy and went away. I just feel like she should PLAN better. I mean, she wants her licesne, she wants to do PEP next year (1/2 day high school, 1/2 day college), but she can't plan enough to have clean laundry? My mom does nothing but cover for her, and I dont' know how to approach this.

T
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ok, i would say that because you are being so kind and helping them out, it is not unreasonable to have a few ground rules with guests. My MIL and Bil stayed with us right after my daughters birth for 6 months. They had to clean up after their dogs doodoo in the yard, she wasnt allowed to smoke in the house, etc. etc. The rules were said in a kind way, and before hand. How about telling them about only doing full loads of laundry? tell them how it costs you all extra money for that. i know what you are going through, and it can be very hard, but it is temporary., hang in there!
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She needs to get the chip off her shoulder and help out. Why can't she do some of her stuff with yours to make a full load and help you out? Cripes, thong undies - she could have them handwashed in less than a couple of minutes and they dry so fast - give me a break!

Sounds like she needs to be clued in! No, you are not expecting too much from her, but does she really know what you expect? Maybe sit down and talk to her like she is a fellow adult and let her know that you expect more consideration from her?
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