Originally Posted by Lula's Mom
You know what, you don't apparently spend enough time here to know that we did recently have an extremely long thread about this subject.
No, it's true I don't spend enough time here to know that. But, I can tell you honestly that I could not have deduced from this thread that that conversation occurred. And I think that says something.
|If you are feeling defensive, laying out the facts can feel like an attack
True. But I'm not feeling defensive, and this seems like an attack to me. Yes the facts were laid out, and that is good. But it could have been done in a more respectful, gentler way. Gawd knows I'm not the queen of gentle myself, but it is a skill that I think is important in activism, especially when talking about something personal.
|Her son was perfect when he was born. He was damaged by a doctor's greed and the misinformation that she believed.
I don't know, I think our wounds are part of our perfection.
This mama says she was 17 when her son was born. She was sexually abused in her own childhood, and so has a particular concern about not wanting to deal with her child's penis more than she has to. And she was misinformed that circing would mean less care. Her mama told her circ was the right thing to do.
I wish people here understood better that most of the crappy choices mamas make for our children exist within a context of non-support, misinformation, and even abuse of the mama.
Dealing aggressively with the context, and gently with the mama, would better meet our end goals, no?