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post #81 of 462
Hello everyone, I'm new to the MDC boards so please excuse any missteps. I was hoping to join you all! I've been tandeming for 15 months now, so "officially" in the extended tandem realm. My two are 12 months apart (26 mths and 15 mths), the Adventures in Tandem Nursing book did almost nothing for me in the way of support, unfortunately. I do think it's probably very useful for moms with children 2 or more years apart, though. I love having my two Gemini's so close in age, although I have no idea how to explain how I was fertile at 10 weeks postpartum while demand-nursing and cosleeping! My fertility STILL hasn't returned 15 months after my second birth. Mystery.

Anyway, I briefly read through and saw that there are some women dealing with nursing a pre-solids baby while pregnant, and I can certainly understand what you're going through. My first lost weight in her 5-6 month because of my dwindling supply and we ended up supplementing her with donated breastmilk from dear trusted friends. It was heartbreaking for me. I went on to donate my "overage" milk while early tandem nursing to another family in need for 6 months as a result of this awesome gift. Needless to say, it all worked out and my oldest is a highly committed nurser these days. In fact, I think her little brother may self-wean before her! Anyone else get that feeling? I wonder if it's because of the milk supply dropping off for those months of my pregnancy which may have caused her to have a higher level of attachment to nursing. Certainly my youngest has never had to wonder if there will be enough milk!

With respect to you all,
Keleigh
post #82 of 462
i'll join! we're tandem nursing here.. DD1 is 22 months and DD2 is 2 months!! I have never read "The Adventures of Tandem Nursing" I have a cousin (who im pretty close with) who is tandem nursing (4 yo and 22month old) and she has just taught me a lot. LOL Without her I know I wouldn't be where I am today and I'm so thankful for her But anyways.. I'll post more later! I'm excited that I've found this tribe!
post #83 of 462
Hey Tandem Nursing Mamas! I am delighted to discover this thread! I look forward to reading through the whole thing.

I am tandem nursing my 11 mo DD and 34 mo DS. The unexpected thing I am experiencing is that my older child nurses more than my baby! He still; NIP all the time (which I had thought would be pretty much over by now) and seems to nurse for comfort, whereas DD seems more businesslike and nursing more solely for nutrition. I think some children are just more attached to nursing than others.

Fortunately my almost 3yo is now to the point where he nurses before he sleeps, but he is not needing to nurse to fall sleep, which has been easier on me. In the past I had some marathon nursing sessions trying to get him to sleep. Also he is now night-weaned (we did a modified version of the Jay Gordon "changing the sleep pattern in the family bed" routine this summer), which has also helped me feel a lot less tapped out.
post #84 of 462
It's so much fun tandem nursing!! Some days it seems like all I do When dd#5 was 6 mths I had to wean her for 5 days, and also weaned dd#4. Slowly but surely they have increased my supply again. Actually dd#4 stopped nursing for about 3 mths and now at almost 4yo (in 5 more sleeps ) would nurse more than dd#5 (11mths). I have set some limits on dd#4 which she is mostly happy about! She would like to nurse at night too, but I can only handle one night nurser!

I love watching them playing with each other. dd#5 often tries to steal dd#4's boob! She lunges at the other breast with her mouth wide open dd#4 thinks it's very funny too!

Just wanted to share.
post #85 of 462
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Honeybee s
I wanted to add that I only night nurse my younger babe. I was so tired after a month of my older one waking up with the new babe twice. I night weaned him. My ds was nightweaned but started up again when the milkies returned. I will say that I do nurse him to sleep an in the morning but I gently cut out the in between nursings. I can usually sleep while dd is nursing so I get more sleep now. At first I was a wreck. I have slight narcolepsy an when that started to kick in I HAD to get more sleep. Everything has evened out an resolved itself now.
post #86 of 462
I'll join too!! I have been tandum nursing for almost 2 years.
post #87 of 462
the beauty of nursing 2 during night is that it makes nursing 1 seem so easy! :
post #88 of 462
welcome Gina! I was hoping you would find this thread!!!!
post #89 of 462
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Originally Posted by damyen's mommy
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Honeybee s
I wanted to add that I only night nurse my younger babe. I was so tired after a month of my older one waking up with the new babe twice. I night weaned him. My ds was nightweaned but started up again when the milkies returned. I will say that I do nurse him to sleep an in the morning but I gently cut out the in between nursings. I can usually sleep while dd is nursing so I get more sleep now. At first I was a wreck. I have slight narcolepsy an when that started to kick in I HAD to get more sleep. Everything has evened out an resolved itself now.
Thanks! I've thought about night weaning, but ds1 was sleeping through the night on his own consistently for several months. I'm hoping this is just a phase, and he'll go back to sleeping soon.
post #90 of 462
Subbing. I tandem nurse my three youngest (though the 6 yr old is nearly weaned). Nursed through three pregnancies, tandem through two of those.
post #91 of 462
I just found this thread, yay!

As of two weeks ago when DD#2 was born, I became a tandem nurser. So far, so good. DD#1 hasn't changed very much at all. For quite some time she nursed when she woke up in the morning, before nap and before bed time. She's still pretty much on the same routine. I am still just shocked at the amount of milk I'm making, so sometimes I have DD#1 come and help a mama out . She does occassionally ask to nurse at times other than her usual times, but is fine if I let her know we can't (like when DD#2 needs my attention).

I am a bit overwhelmed nursing a newborn again, but I am sure I'll get the hang of it all pretty quickly.

It's so great to meet other mamas who are tandem nursing!
post #92 of 462
Well, I have been tandem nursing for close to three years and with my own bio-children for about 28 months, which seems to me quite an experience. I am currently pregnant with #3 and am in the 16th week. My supply is quite affected and the toddlers now nurse more for comfort. It seems after the birth of #3 I may have to continue tandemning still and I am mentally prepared for the same. On the whole, so far it has been an enjoyable, though also very taxing, experience. I wish other Mamas, who are tandeming, all the very best.
Uzra
post #93 of 462
Congrats Mamamilkers! My "newborn" is almost a year old now - I'm jealous of you nursing your newborn!
post #94 of 462
Question for all of you...do you think nursing more than one child makes AF stay away longer? With DS, AF stayed away till he was 15.5 months, and now DD is 12 months and no sign yet (thank God!). Just curious if it seems to stay away longer when tandem nursing vs. just nursing one child. I would like to have one more eventually, but not for awhile, so I would just as soon have AF stay away.
post #95 of 462
Yay! I cannot believe that I've never seen this thread before!
I've been tandeming for just about 17mo now, my ds Jacob is 3.5 and my other ds Antonio is apporaching 17mo.
It's been an interesting : journey, I look forward to back-tracking in this thread and reading all of the posts.

jillmamma: I think that is a definate possibilty. With my dd, AF returned at 5mo post-partum, with my ds, it returned at 8mo ( with each subsequent child I nursed ALOT more and stoped using pacifiers ), now with my 2nd ds, AF just returned last week ....so that makes almost 17mo without. I'm sure the NON-use of any artificial nipples/pacifiers in combo with the 24/7 tandem nursing kept AF at bay.
post #96 of 462
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Originally Posted by jillmamma
Question for all of you...do you think nursing more than one child makes AF stay away longer? With DS, AF stayed away till he was 15.5 months, and now DD is 12 months and no sign yet (thank God!). Just curious if it seems to stay away longer when tandem nursing vs. just nursing one child. I would like to have one more eventually, but not for awhile, so I would just as soon have AF stay away.
Maybe! I got pg with DD when DS was 13 months (no ppaf!) and my first AF after DD was at 19 months. However, I have also heard that there is a tendency for to take longer to return with each pg. Dunno...
post #97 of 462
That has definitely been true for me, and it makes sense from a physiological point of view too. My fertility returned after only 10 weeks the first time and has now been on vacation for 15 months while tandeming! The more milk you produce and stimulation you have at the breast the more you signal your body not to produce ova. It's a chemical/hormonal thing.

:?: I have a question for you all: have you noticed your older nursling is more "attached" to nursing than the younger? Maybe it's because mine are so close in age (12 months), but I feel like #2 is going to self-wean before #1 (or at least at the same time). What do you think? Maybe because #2 didn't experience that drop of supply that #1 had during my second pregnancy?
post #98 of 462
With my first baby I had my first period after the baby at 15 months. I did not have a period after my second baby till 19 or 20 months.( I was and still an tandum nursing) However, we use the Creighton model of NPF and I believe that I did ovulate before my period at 19 or 20 months. My olderest has been night wean since my youngest was born, but I still night nurse my baby who is almost 23 months. I hope this helps give you some idea what to excpet.
post #99 of 462
I am not currently tandem nursing my children, but my youngest (13m) nursed while my friends dd (almost 2yo) nursed on my other boob.
DS kept poking her in the eye.
Tandem nursing was amazing
post #100 of 462
I feel like my first is more attached somedays, and I thought that my baby (23 months) was not as interested. However now that she have has some words, I can tell how important our time together is. Now if I could just get a bigger lap. I never thought I would be nursing a 2year old and 4 year at the same time!!!!! Some days it works better then other, it have been a great test in patient and consideration for the girls and my self.
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