On the calling during labor thing... At my hospital, they don't tell a caller what you're doing or where you are. You call the hospital and ask for so-and-so's room, and they patch you through. So I got a call about an hour after DS was born (and since DS was whisked away to the NICU and DH was off taking pics of him for me, I was all alone in this huge room, so the phone call was actually a GOOD thing
), and the lady that was calling was just seeing how I was doing. I'd been in the antepartum unit for 4 days. She didn't realize I had gone into labor and had the baby that evening. Boy was she surprised!
But yeah, if someone *knows* you're in labor, they really don't need to be calling!!! Same goes for those first few postpartum hours. I don't call a new mom until the next day if she hasn't called me first (my best friend calls me within 2-3 hours of giving birth).
When I birth this one, if it's full term, it will be out-of-hospital, and no one will know I'm in labor except my parents. I don't plan to even call the in-laws until the baby is here. My parents will know because they'll be watching DS #1, and probably will be bringing him up when I'm in transition or something (my house is 15 minutes from the birth house, and I am hoping my parents can watch him at my house). But my parents won't be calling/telling anyone else I'm in labor. They'd do all the calling AFTER the baby comes. And as soon as we get home (probably a few hours after the birth), we'd be sending an e-mail out to everyone, and we'll probably tell them that e-mail contact is preferred to phone calls the first few days (which that's actually the case normally anyway