I WOH part time, right now it's 5 days a week in the mornings. I work for financial reasons. If we were going to stay in our apartment, I could probably afford to stay home, but we reeeaaallly want to buy a house, in fact we just got our mortgage info and downpayment together and are about to start looking
We also want to have more children and it's sure nice to have a year off with pay, which you can only get if you're employed (Canada).
So it may not be totally necessary, we do have a car (old clunker) and a college fund for ds. But for us, it gives us a better standard of living. We eat good food, we have good fun. That being said, I do buy things (clothes, toys) second hand as much as possible.
Also my job has medical and dental insurance, dh's does not. And I get to enjoy a hot cup of coffee without having to reheat it 3 times because I had to stop to read Goodnight Moon 4 times in a row
However, my job has noooooo mental stimulation, short of internet access which allows me to surf MDC... I lurked for months on my mat leave until I came back to work and had time to start posting
We are also fortunate to have ds in a home daycare where he is very well taken care of, loved and happy.
If I won the lottery tomorrow, I'd stay home. Ever since I was a little girl, all I wanted to do was be a wife and mother. I never wanted a "career". I would love to have a big house with lots of kids, homeschool, grow my own food... those ladies are my heroes.
But I think we've reached a compromise that works for us and we can live with.
I don't know what I'm going to do after more children... it seems daycare would be really expensive, I just hope then maybe I'll be in a better position to stay home (dh will need a big raise!
) Or maybe I can take different hours, work on wknds while dh is home.... who knows, I'll cross that bridge when we come to it.
Sorry so long, but great thread and had to post my story!