Originally Posted by MPJJJ
This child is hurting YOUR child! Why on earth are you still allowing that kid near your child? You owe it to your children to protect them, which you are miserably failing by allowing them to be injured by this child! Even if you do not call CPS, you need to step up to the plate and start protecting your own babies, not worrying about someone else's feelings.
I know. My sons really like him despite this and I know, I have to keep him from them even if they won't be happy. They don't know about the animals except when he threatened our dog in front of them and my oldest got very mad at him.
I have brought up my issues about her son to her many times and she kept "working on it". I'm just done waiting for her to try to fix him and done thinking I could somehow help her do it.
Gosh, I forgot to tell you all what she said about talking with him after the last cat died. I told her she needed to explain things (this was after she swore he wasn't capable of understanding what he did) so that he would be clear on what he caused and would hopefully show some remorse. She said no cat was worth harming her sons' psychy by knowing he killed something!
This means, I guess, she did the same with the previous animals. We got into a huge argument where I was "telling her how to raise her son" and I'm not a perfect parent either.
I am not completely silent about things, don't get me wrong. I have asked her to give the current cat away every time I've talked with her saying that's just f###ed up of her to get another cat knowing darn well what will happen to it! In fact, she didn't tell me about the cat for a while and slipped by complaining her son was "torturing" the cat again. (She used the word sarcasticly, but you know that's exactly what he was doing.) She also lied to me telling me for months how well he treated the last cat (since I complained when she got that one knowing what he did a year ago to the rabbit...she just slipped about the first cat and I am not certain what he did to it just that it was "defective" also.) At first I thought maybe a year of maturing he was nicer and had learned how to treat animals, but then she started slipping about each of the other things I told you all in my first message that he did to the last cat.
I think I'll call CPS and ask their policy on animal abusing children and how they would treat her backlashing against me. Maybe I can ask what they would make him and her do and then tell her what they said and that I hadn't yet
turned her in. Maybe she would follow the advice (surely counseling at least) before it has to go further. She does need a wake up call. The more I think of all this at the same time, the more guilty I am for not having done anything yet.
I've known her for a decade now and still wish there was a way to help her without having her son taken away.
Another thing I just remembered: He loves watching Animal Planet and knows everything about animals, especially reptiles. She talks about how much he's into animals and will probably grow up to be a Veterinarian!