I ended up having to tell my fil that it was not up for discussion any more. It is just wrong for anyone to be so obsessed with someone elses genitals especially a child
: I did tell my mom and we have had talks about it but she never tried to pressure me just shared her feelings and I shared mine. Everyone knows that talking to me about it now is usless. (pretty obvious with my say no to circ bumper stickers
I know how hard it is to go against so many people but what it comes down to is protecting your child from harm that is your responsability and no one elses. There are so many stories in the Regret sticky of mom's who went ahead with the circ just to make others happy
now they will regret that for the rest of there lives and their son's will have to live with the consequences.
In the hospital here the only one who can give concent for the circ is the mom the dad has no right. Once they leave the hospital tho that is another story. The dad can take the child to any ped. and have it done. I dont tell you this to be mean just so you are aware of what can happen. I would let my dh know in no uncertain terms should he do something like that our marriage would be over and it would with me. Because in my eyes he has abused my child.
I hope that you can get your dh to listen to reason and it dosnt come to hurting your marriage. Just let him know how important this is to you as best you can and work on him. When it looks like he has had enough back off a few days then go at it again. That is how it was with my dh finally he saw I was not gonna budge and he backed off.
If they are so worried about apperance let them know that only about 50% of boys here in the USA are circed now and the number is dropping fast. 80% of the world's population is intact that means only 20% are cut so if he decides to live outside the USA he will be the odd man out.
Do what you know in your heart is best for your son and dont worry about converting your family just make sure that even if dh isnt on your side he wont do something without your knowledge.