Everyone is against me... - Page 3

[paminmi]

Originally Posted by mamajandtheboys

while working as a nurse, i found that most hospitals don't offer circumcision any more -- and most that do require cash payment up front. one hospital i worked at had an info sheet for parents stating that circumcision is a medically unnecessary, cosmetic procedure and was not recommended any longer by the aap.

It sounds like you are living in Utopia...

Definitely not reality in the midwest where I live.

((((Hugs)))) to you Heather

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

I ended up having to tell my fil that it was not up for discussion any more. It is just wrong for anyone to be so obsessed with someone elses genitals especially a child : I did tell my mom and we have had talks about it but she never tried to pressure me just shared her feelings and I shared mine. Everyone knows that talking to me about it now is usless. (pretty obvious with my say no to circ bumper stickers

I know how hard it is to go against so many people but what it comes down to is protecting your child from harm that is your responsability and no one elses. There are so many stories in the Regret sticky of mom's who went ahead with the circ just to make others happy now they will regret that for the rest of there lives and their son's will have to live with the consequences.

In the hospital here the only one who can give concent for the circ is the mom the dad has no right. Once they leave the hospital tho that is another story. The dad can take the child to any ped. and have it done. I dont tell you this to be mean just so you are aware of what can happen. I would let my dh know in no uncertain terms should he do something like that our marriage would be over and it would with me. Because in my eyes he has abused my child.

I hope that you can get your dh to listen to reason and it dosnt come to hurting your marriage. Just let him know how important this is to you as best you can and work on him. When it looks like he has had enough back off a few days then go at it again. That is how it was with my dh finally he saw I was not gonna budge and he backed off.

If they are so worried about apperance let them know that only about 50% of boys here in the USA are circed now and the number is dropping fast. 80% of the world's population is intact that means only 20% are cut so if he decides to live outside the USA he will be the odd man out.

Do what you know in your heart is best for your son and dont worry about converting your family just make sure that even if dh isnt on your side he wont do something without your knowledge.

[katiesmom]

Thanks so much, ladies. I will not discuss it with my family anymore.

I will also tell my dh that intact is the default, like a pp said, and that he needs to prove to me beyond a shadow of a doubt that our son needs surgery on his penis when he is born, or we're just going to leave it up to our son!
Thanks again, and I will keep you posted.
Heather

[frenchie]

Just remind ALL of them that women have smegma on their vaginas, and then ask them if they think womens bits should be cut up to rid themselves of smegma.
Ask them if they think a child born with say....ears that stick waaaay out...should that be corrected at birth? After all, you wouldn't want to have your child made fun of or look abnormal. OR, do they agree that it should be decision left up to the child when they become a consenting adult....because all a circ is, is cosemtic surgery.
Ask them how they would feel if they were strapped to a cold plastic board and a doctor started chopping up their genitals with no pain control....them ask them how any loving parent who is aware, could do that to their child...ask them how THEY could possibly think that a prcedure like that is OK, humane, acceptable, loving or in the BEST INTEREST of the child.

[New Mexico Beach]

Can't the father sign for the circ?

[MyNameIsBen]

I just wanted to offer my support to the OP. I'm sure I speak for a lot of men here when I say that circumcision is barbaric. I don't know if this will help you convince your husband, but maybe he'll be more accepting of the idea of not circing from a man. Which is another problem altogether...

[Super Pickle]

Dear Katiesmom,
Stay strong. You will never, ever regret it.

Your family is emotionally invested in your decision because they interpret it as either an indictment or an affimation of their own past choices. If you have a healthy, happy intact boy running around, that is a serious threat because it means that they really didn't need to invade their childrens' genitals like they did. On the other hand, if you circ, they can just say to themselves, "See? Everyone does it. He might have had problems if he weren't circ'ed. We can forget about it now and go on believing that a rounded, marked, and bare penis is perfectly normal."