Bipolar Spouses? - Page 2

[LilithParker]

If he's concerned about how much his meds are costing, he should ask his doctor about prescription assistance programs. My income is low enough that Glaxo sends me my Lamictal for free.

*hugs*

[Qerratsmom]

I notice that refined sugars effect my dh with bp as well, but it hard to cut them out as he will have mad cravings for sweets and go out and buy like a whole bag of cookies and eat them all. He did cut out all alcohol since manic episodes and alcohol always spell bad, bad, bad and he seeing a therapist and will be getting on meds in a few weeks (I'm sorry, but I can't wait: ) I"m glad I found this thread as his official diagnoses and coming to terms with this stuff is new for us (I've been with dh for 9 years).

[SLY]

with dh and i divorcing, the hard part is now knowing where he is emotionally, and with his meds- on? off? im trying to detach from him and trying to not let him jerk me around. one day hes amicable, then next he's a mean *ss rat b*st*rd...its hard to detach from him, though, after 10 years and 2 kids.

he is doing things now to try and get me to respond to him. A big issue for me and him in the past is that he would take a nap all day and blow off all the stuff we had to do, or plans we had. Up or down...he'd want to nap. Example of him trying to push my buttons-we hap planned to meet today to go through and seperate some of our belongings. I get there- and he says "the best part about getting a divorce is that I can nap and you cant give me any shit". so he took a nap and I did the work. Anyway this is more a dh and i divorcing thing than a BP thing...

hope everyone is doing well...

[familylove]

s to you, Sally!

When you went over to your soon-to-be ex-husband's house and he refused to help, could you have said in a non-confrontational voice, "Ok, you take a nap and I will do x,y and z. You can do the rest of it when you get up." Then you've put the responsibility back with him.

As for him acting like an *ss, as you said, you are trying to detach. Determine what that means to you and what you will and will not "put up with". You can only control *your* emotions and *your* reactions...there is nothing you can do or say to make him behave differently.

Best to you, sweetie...keep us posted!

[SLY]

THe latest includes him telling me our young son, 3 1/2 mos old, dosnt look like him at all. Basically he said he dosnt think he is our sons dad.

I told him tha I would only discuss our finances, our divorce and our children and that I had no desire to talk to him any further at this point about anything else. I also told him he could take a paternity test if he so desired.

wow!

[Qerratsmom]

Sly, I'm so sorry. This must be such a hard time for you