There are a few videos of c/s out there in internet land if you google enough. I can't speak for someone who's had a planned c/s, it may be different. I had already had an epidural placed a few hrs before. They added some mega-antibiotics that hurt like hell to my IV, then some anti-nausea meds that made me hyperventilate & feel REALLY cold. We went to the OR (me on a gurney), then they had me help them move me over to the table. The anesth. chatted with me a little bit while he upped the meds then did testing for numbness. I started getting nauseous & he had me turn my head to the side to vomit (oops, I got it in the O2 mask, so it came back to me later :?). DH came in, sat by my head. They had my arms stretched out to the sides, and were velcro'd to the supports, I think, for safety. They had a curtain up around boob-height. Cold, bright, heard nurses & OB talking/chatting about other stuff. Then a feeling of lots of pressure, LOTS of pressure, then heard my babe cry. He held her up over the curtain for a second so I could see her, then she was wrapped up (not cleaned, just swaddled) and brought straight to me to hold. After we'd had our moment
DH went with her out of the OR and I went to recovery for 45 min or so. That was absolute hell, being away from the babe. If I was scheduling or writing an in-case-of-c/s plan, I think I would want to specify the babe MUST stay with me, policy be damned. Having had the babe but not being with her ... awful. Back to my room, DH came in with baby. He told me that the nurses didn't touch her while I was away, that they had him in a private room with her so that no relatives/friends would get to spend time with her before me. My hospital is MAJORLY breastfeeding supportive so they helped me learn to side-lie nurse and cosleep. I felt mentally aware about 1-1/2 hrs after surgery, had the catheter out 30 minutes later, the epi line out at the same time. The next morning HURT. I forced myself out of bed & took a shower on my own (OWW). I walked as much as I could, did as much care of DD on my own as I could. TAKE STOOL SOFTENERS AT THIS POINT. We left the hospital as early as allowed & had my mom at home to help for a week. I was in pretty rough incision pain for about a week & 1/2 or so, and stopped trying to 'tough it out' without the big pain meds on day 3 post-birth (dumb, just use them if you need them). B/F was harder b/c of the incision. I was lucky & didn't have an infection or reopening of the wound like some I know. The major negative after-effect for me was a resistant yeast infection that caused us b/f problems and caused me some incredible yoni pain (vestibulodynia) for about 5-6 months. That, and the emotionality of missing that first hour after birth.
As far as pain level of the incision healing, I'm sure it differs. For me, it was quite a bit worse than my appendectomy, esp. because I wanted & needed to be active so soon afterward.
If you're going to be planning for any reason, I'd make a birth plan for the c/s. Keep in mind the pain level, your plans for b/f, who will be with you, etc. I appreciate that my hospital kept DH & baby away from prying eyes early on, I needed to feel like she was mine-first since I missed the first hour. And absolutely, positively plan to have help at home afterward.