So let's just say you screw up - Page 2

[Luthien Arcamenel]

Originally Posted by Ruthla

I figure I'm modeling for my children that nobody's perfect and it's OK to admit when you make a mistake.

Yes!!! I ALWAYS apologize! Even when it isn't my fault!

And I have had other people tell me that I was showing the children weakness, and that they wouldn't respect me, and I need to just stand by my origional words/action!:

Um, yeah. Because living with the knoweledge that mommy unjustly bit your head off and seems to be just peachy with it, is MUCH better than living with the knowledge that humans screw up and it's ok to admit it and apologize to those you hurt. :

Ooops, I was so busy ranting I forgot to hug soggy granola!

BTW, my second is super meltdown prone when he misses well-timed snacks and meals. So dh got the idea to go to the dry bins at whole foods and grab various things like fruits, nuts, sesame sticks, etc., and then he mixed them altogether and packaged them into tiny ziplocs, and we just let him dig into one of those when our chedule is getting wonky. It is a lifesaver to all of us!

[HappyToBe]

Yeah, I feel that we all lose our patience/temper sometimes & it's good to model recovery. Our kids are going to experience the same emotions and best to let them see us cope & deal then feel like they're not normal. So, I guess I'm saying you're normal.

[annarosa]

be kind to yourself and model for your children that you can accept your own screw ups - then they will learn to accept their own mistakes and move on - a great skill for them to have
don't focus so much on the screw up but more on the mending skills that come afterwards - sounds like you have lots of those sorts of skills to me - saying sorry, checking the child is OK, making time to be genuine and caring, not dwelling on the mess but on what we can do about it