"is it perhaps the idea that there are right and wrong answers, and nothing in between?"
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This is interesting...that IS what turned me off of math when I was in school. Maybe some math-savy person here can expand on this---is math that rigid? Are there really only right and wrong answers and nothing in between? I remember, as a child, being instructed to set up subtraction problems with the larger number on top because, of course, you can't subtract 10 from 8. I was very annoyed when I later learned about negative numbers.
One of the reasons I loved English/literature was that there was room for debate and discussion and interpretation. I didn't think that was possible with math. There was a certain fear involved in my math education because of this. I knew that in other areas, as long as I could defend my position, my answer was okay. Not so with math. I felt I had one chance to be right and infinite chances of being laughed at.

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"Of course, you can leave children to discover things for themselves, for as long as it takes. I've been through that school of thought in education in the 80s, but never fully bought into it. Or you can facilitate learning by enriching their world with suggestions and ideas, and be a partner in their learning. I think that a 'teacher's' role, or a facilitator, or whatever you want to call a teacher, is to help lead the child on to further discovery."
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You and I are close in our thoughts here. I would rather the child do the leading, but I do see the adult as a resource.
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