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[Anamoo]

Originally Posted by A&A

PS. What an asinine MIL you have, to do that to you and the baby behind your back.

I would use the word HAD instead of have. I have long forgiven her. I imagine it's hard to let go.... her son needed her help and her loyalty was with him. She has since learned that her place is in our family not in our marriage. She is really a lovely woman and today I consider her a true friend. Time changes alot of things.

[A&A]

Originally Posted by Anamoo

I would use the word HAD instead of have. I have long forgiven her. I imagine it's hard to let go.... her son needed her help and her loyalty was with him. She has since learned that her place is in our family not in our marriage. She is really a lovely woman and today I consider her a true friend. Time changes alot of things.

Wow. What a forgiving woman you are. I'd still be holding a grudge (because I'm like that!)

[LoveChild421]

Originally Posted by A&A

"It ain't happening, over my dead body." Repeat as necessary.

exactly. I had a friend whose dh was adamant about circ (she ended up having a girl) but she decided to put it to him this way: Circ is medically unncessary- if the child grows up and wants to be circed he can have it done at any time and adults actually get proper anesthesia for it. She told her husband that if he can provide facts as to why it is absolultely necessary she would consider it, if he didn't like the fact that she wasn't willing to consent to totally unnecessary, extremely painful cosmetic surgery on their newborn baby then he could feel free to leave the marriage.

If a man feels that mutilating his son is so important that he would leave a marriage because the child's mother refused, then he is the one breaking up the marriage. It isn't as if the dh has any sort of factual argument that needs to be taken into account- it's always the same old "he'll look different from me" (so what? If you lost your arm in a car accident would you want your son to have his cut off too to match?) or "it's nasty" (which we all know isn't true as long as the man has discovered what bathing is). It isn't as if the dh has an equally valid viewpoint.