Originally Posted by mamabadger
It may be taking a chance, but I'm going to agree with Beth. If you can't in good conscience take on clients who plan to circ, they should be notified before you agree to provide your services. It's only fair. In fact, I'll go further: I can't see myself making demands of this kind on a client at all.
I think my anti-circ credentials are as good as anyone's, and I live in a place where few new babies are circumcised and it's not generally accepted. However, I think a professional caregiver, whether OB, midwife, or doula, has no business telling clients how to live their lives. Providing information is one thing, but choosing only clients who agree with you seems a little presumptuous to me.
In theory, you could carry these restrictions farther. I could insist on maintaining my principles and refusing to accept:
- Anyone planning to circumcise, and by extension
- All Jews, and
- All Moslems. Also
- Parents who will not be breastfeeding
- Parents who believe in spanking
A doula is hired to help a woman with her birth, not as the overseer and judge of all her moral and ethical decisions thereafter.
I completely disagree. Doulas and midwives and naturopaths are concerned with the holistic health of the mother/baby dyad. Not just with getting the baby out. They are assisting a family, not just a uterus, as many OBs do.
It's not judging all the moral and ethical decisions the clients ever make hereafter. It's just a wellness position.
I had 2 homebirths and both my midwife teams told me they do not take clients who do not plan to breastfeed. First of all, b/c the bfing contracts the uterus, but also b/c a healthy, normal birth should be followed by normal infant feeding, human milk. This is the norm and should be promoted as such. They recommend LLL to all their clients.
We never planned on circing any children so I do not recall even discussing the subject with our midwives. But if the doula/midwife is concerned with the longterm health of the family they are working with, and circing interferes with this, they are well within their right to be upfront about this.
Taking a firm stand will be educational for the clients, and education is a good thing.