|Mamabadger, I have a question for you. What makes your "anti-circ credentials" so good may I ask? What exactly do you do to actively end RIC? Please enlighten me.
I didn't really mean that to be a challenge, but just the usual: didn't circ my sons; teach the harsh facts about RIC in my prenatal classes; publicize the issue where possible. For example, when I have a display or booth for my classes, I usually include a poster and some free literature on genital integrity.
|How is it not "his" business? all of those things can impact how labor progresses, depending on how she feels about them. I would expect that any provider worth their pants would want to know all sorts of "unrelated" stuff about the women they work with.
True, but that's different from finding out whether the patient's values agree with the doctor's and deciding on that basis whether to provide medical care. On that basis, a lot of OBGYNs would refuse care to women who planned to BF past 24 months, for example, or to have a home birth. IMO, that would be paternalistic and inappropriate.
Seriously, I don't think it's my business, either, what decisions a couple will make regarding their child's care. Suppose I'm asked to be doula to a couple who say they just haven't decided yet whether to circumcise? Or, as some might well do, reply that it's none of my concern, I'm just being hired to help with the birth, and what happens in their family afterward is none of my business. To me, that's a reasonable reply.
I think spanking is a good parallel. Others have commented that it's not the same, circumcision is far more traumatic and damaging. Probably so, but a good argument can be made that spanking is as bad or worse. It continues over a much longer period of time, it inflicts emotional damage that can last a lifetime. If I have clients who I suspect intend to use corporal punishment - or to call things by their right names, intend to beat their child - I could refuse to attend their birth. Maybe all the local doulas could refuse them. Would making sure they have to deal with their first labour without support from a doula make them better, kinder parents? If anything, a good birth helps parents make more caring decisions about their children. I can hope to have that kind of effect on my clients if I do my job well, but I can't control what they do with their lives after my work for them is completed.