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There are other things I disagree with, but, I'll stop here!
I'd be curious to hear more.
Me too.

I would love a discussion on that. It is very interesting to see where other people are coming from.
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Jenny, Thanks for your awesome statement on life, it is so true. That was a great statement!
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Mind if I join in too?? I only have 3, but they are all a year apart, so I certainly am very busy! I was pregnant with #4, but it was ectopic and we just terminated last week. : Very sad.

All my real life friends only have singletons, so there is no one that really understands the joys and challenges of having more than 1.
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CruchyMomto3, Welcome to the tribe!


Sorry about your recent loss.

I am glad you made it here. So much support from moms that have BTDT!
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CrunchyMomto3 ~ I'm sorry for your recent loss.
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Hi crunchymomto3! I just saw you sig on another page and noticed the ectopic date. So sorry for your recent loss.

You're right, moms of one don't understand, sometimes! But we were once there, too! Ds1 was soooooo easy, too. I remember thinking that being a mom is tough back then. HA!

Welcome!
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Welcome and hugs for your loss.
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I'm preggers with number 5 due feb 2008 .....My ex had three kiddies who i raised they were with us full time so for 8 years have had a real tribe that was eventually 7 children...then i left and it was four......Still see the other children sometimes, they are nearly all grown up and far too busy :

Do you find sometimes that people treat you like your a bit weird for having had so many ????
post #329 of 419
Abstar, welcome to the tribe.


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Do you find sometimes that people treat you like your a bit weird for having had so many?
ALL the time! :

I have very few people IRL that treat me as a person rather than an enigma. But I have gotten used to it over time.
post #330 of 419
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Do you find sometimes that people treat you like your a bit weird for having had so many ????

Absolutely. Especially in a place where the norm is 2 kids per family. It kind of bums me out that there is so much judgement. I guess I've got to learn to get used to it.
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I was JUST going off on a tangent about this in my blog (link in my sig under 'this blessed life')! My post is titled "I love creating new humans". I started with just a "yay, I love having kids" but got off on a tangent about how NOT celebrated large families are in this day & age, & how totally bizarre & opposite that is to nearly all of human history. It is an entirely new thing that other women would look at those of us with many kids & judge us to be "crazy". Our culture these days values material possessions & uber clean & shiny surroundings & uninterrupted recreational activities more than we value family & having kids. It's really fascinating (not to mention depressing! ) how much we have changed in just a number of decades! Large healthy families aren't signs of "success" & happiness anymore, material possessions are. It is sooooo weird.

So I LOVE reading stories about pioneers & settlers & other self-sufficient women in the past who had & loved their big families. I feel like I can relate to them more than the average woman of today.
post #332 of 419
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Do you find sometimes that people treat you like your a bit weird for having had so many ????
Yes, quite often. Most of the time, it's not mean spirited, but it has been a couple of times.
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... pioneers & settlers & other self-sufficient women in the past who had & loved their big families. I feel like I can relate to them more than the average woman of today.
Me too! That's cool to hear someone else say something I've said to my husband a thousand times! Today's "modern, independent tough" woman seems so incompetent and wimpy when compared to tough women who worked farms, raised many children, and built houses.
post #334 of 419
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Me too! That's cool to hear someone else say something I've said to my husband a thousand times! Today's "modern, independent tough" woman seems so incompetent and wimpy when compared to tough women who worked farms, raised many children, and built houses.
We ARE wimpy these days! It's amazing how much people used to know how to do decades & centuries past. We knew how to homestead, how to keep our families fed & cared for, now we mostly depend on corporations to do everything for us- grow our food, build our houses & transportation devices, fix our plumbing/roof/electrical, etc. problems, make all our clothes, FIX everything that breaks.... it's just amazing how little we know now. We don't know how to take care of ourselves. I would SO love to feel that my family could be self sufficient if it had to be, y'know? I read Carla Emery's encyclopedia of country living like some people probably read erotic fiction. I LOVE it, I fantasize about doing the stuff in her book, I get so excited at the possibilities... lol.

Here's an awesome article that talks about how much men & women used to know, & how emasculated men have been forced to become & such. I love the article, I hope it isn't offensive to anyone.... http://www.newswithviews.com/Levant/nancy94.htm . My favorite paragraphs are where she talks about how dumbed down we have become as men & women. I get angry & want my power back! I want the power to care for my family like women used to know how to do! I don't know how to do half the stuff she mentions!

Um, I'm kind of off on a tangent (again). This doesn't directly relate to large families I suppose. Or maybe it does... I don't know.

Thanks for letting me rant & rave here!
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I would like to join you guys. I am pregnant with #11.
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I would like to join you guys. I am pregnant with #11.
Gee, I think you qualify!

If you don't mind sharing, how old are your kids? What is it like with 11? How do you manage the mundane? How do you get out? Do you homeschool? How do you manage your time?
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I would like to join you guys. I am pregnant with #11.
Welcome to the tribe!

I LOVE large families! Are you going for an even dozen? I want a dozen!
post #338 of 419
They range in age from 14 to 1. Time manages me more than I manage it. I have a few with medical issues so we are always out and about at appointments. We do not homeschool simply because I am not home almost every day. It isn't as hard as one would imagine because the older ones do help. Also, when a new little one joins the house already has a rhythm and a routine and they just tend to follow along. Much easier than when you are just starting out with the first, second, or third.
post #339 of 419
Big familes here (more than 4) are no longer the norm.
And to be honest imma2six your Mom's opinion re:" running your body down with 6 pregnancies and EBF would be the atitude of a lot of the older generation here too and I guess some of the logic behind it would be becuase they don't see the difference in the fact that here women had large families years ago becuase they had no access to birth control (yah, I know Ireland was in the middle wages until the 60's) but you are having a large family becuase you WANT to and your health, heart and means can support that, that's the difference.

As for your Mom pushing you to get a hysterectomy??? WTH? If you did want permanent contraception, wouldn't she reckon a tubal would be easier?
As for aspirin after childbirth - a side note, but ibuprofen is regarded as much safer here.
On the car isue, some larger families here opt for SUV's - 7/8 seaters.

On the trying for a boy /girl issue - my Dad's cousin (Mom of large family) had a 2 great answers for that
''Oooh (wide eyed) can you do that? Should I write God a letter (she was a Christian) or should we just do it on a different day of the week? or is there a different position you could reccommend? ''
The questioner just sort of melted away!
" I want a girl but Con (her DH) will only give me boys - will you have a talk with him for me - make him change his mind"
Followed by mumbles from the questioner and the subject was changed

She had a great esponse for the -Don't you know what causes it remark too - wide eyed astonishment followed by
'oooh, there's a cuase for it AND you've figured it out, do tell me, please'.
When asked how many children she was going to have she would always respond with "Guess".
post #340 of 419
My favorite way to respond to the "don't you know what causes it" remark is to narrow my eyes and get that sexy look on my face and say:

"Well, first DH turns down the lights and turns on the magic... We light some candles, and put soft music on the radio. He looks at me; I look at him, and then.. Oh wait, you WEREN'T serious? Oh, sorry."
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