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I'd love to hear about the bigger van options
10 Passenger Dodge Sprinter here. I love it. Much more comfortable than the E-series and similar vans, plus it's a disel and gets much better gas mileage.
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We are adding #5 :
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Anyone been to Disney?

Just looking to see if anyone has flown with their group or been to DisneyWorld?
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Susan, My #4 was added last November. It's not been as easy as I thought it would be! But now Lachlan is nearly 9 months and getting very mobile and it's actually gotten easier on me. He was a clingy baby until now. Now he will entertain in the walker with his brothers around him, he will self entertain around the house a lot, etc..

I think once he gets past the baby baby stuff (though I will dearly miss it!!!!) things will be a lot easier.

PS: Other moms seem to do better than I do sometimes as I have chronic pain issues and low patience. Seems like they do anyway. My advice is, if you don't feel done, go for it! DH says we're done now...
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I've got a question for you mamas..did you KNOW you wanted a large family?If so,was it something you ALWAYS knew or were you back and forth or what?What's it like having lots of kids?
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I've got a question for you mamas..did you KNOW you wanted a large family?If so,was it something you ALWAYS knew or were you back and forth or what?What's it like having lots of kids?
Good question. I'll be interested to read others' replies. As for me, yes, I always knew I wanted to have a big family. Even as a child I would tell people I was going to have 5 kids. (I have 4 of my own & I raised my nephew, so there's my 5!)

And what it's like to have a big family ........ :::::
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I have always known that I wanted a large family, as well.

From as early as 12 (that I know of, it could have been earlier) I knew I wanted a dozen children. And after birthing number nine, I am still willing to take a dozen. I love children. I love the controlled chaos, the noise, the giggles, the joys. For every con, there are at least a dozen pros!

And having children of all ranges, from newborn to adult, I have a fairly good grasp of what is involved. And I have no regrets.

And although I am "getting up there" in age (hey, I AM almost 38) I don't feel old and would still love more children.
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I've got a question for you mamas..did you KNOW you wanted a large family?If so,was it something you ALWAYS knew or were you back and forth or what?What's it like having lots of kids?
I always knew I wanted a large family. Never back and forth about it. I have four now and that doesn't feel large to me.
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I married into a big family. My husband had three and I had one, then we had one together. ALL BOYS. After a while It really doesnt seem like that many to me. Don't get me wrong, were a sight to see at the grocery store, Me with a baby in my arms and four crazed boys all 8 & under running around the two topped off shopping carts were pushing, but after a while they just blend. Sometimes I even have to count cuz i can't tell if they are all there or not - 1, 2, 3, 4..... 5? 5!? where is 5!?- Oh wait, here he is. So far we haven't permanently lost anyone so we gotta be doin something right.

People always ask us 2 things-

1. You were trying for that girl huh?
2. So...are you DONE yet, or are you planning more?
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I've got a question for you mamas..did you KNOW you wanted a large family?If so,was it something you ALWAYS knew or were you back and forth or what?What's it like having lots of kids?
I always wanted 3 kids because I had 2 sisters.
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I had one brother who hated me and I think that made me want more children. Often I thought of 4.

Years ago when I had TWO, I thought I was done. Ooops! We had a third. Then I wanted a fourth. Now DH is DONE though I sometimes think in another three years I could adopt..

However, 3 older boys and one baby is currently whooping my patooty.
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I've got a question for you mamas..did you KNOW you wanted a large family?If so,was it something you ALWAYS knew or were you back and forth or what?What's it like having lots of kids?

I always wanted at least 3 kids.....then number 4 came along...then number 5 : and now we are expecting #6! I only had my brother growing up for 16 yrs, then my mom remarried and finally gave me 2 more siblings . I wanted my kids to all grow up together instead of a 16 yr gap between them. Don't get me wrong, I have a very close relationship with my sister & youngest brother despite the 16 & 18 yrs difference, it just would have been nice to have them when I was much younger too! My DH comes from a family of 3 with 2 more siblings added on when he was older too.....so we both kinda came from bigger families & knew how much fun they could be.

Although I do think that with #6 we will be reaching our limit for now

Dana
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Hi, I have 9 soon to be 10 and I think people just gave up on commenting me on when Im going to stop by now


now they come to me for advice with their questions
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4 here. as soon as I met dh I wanted to give him lots of babies. I wanted 6, but fertility issues have slowed our progress, and now baby 4 is kicking my tooshie as well. We leave it up to the Universe to give us more or not. as for what it is like..... loud messy and slightly overwhelming mixed with joy exuberance and bliss.
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I have 5. I have always wanted at least 4. I grew up with a brother and sister that were much older, so it was like being an only and I hated it. My mom and dad both had really big families though, and I loved how close they were. That is why I decided to have a large family of my own.

DH isn't a kid person though, and he probably would have been happy being childless his whole life, so that kind of sucks sometimes, because he loses his patience very easily.

Overall, its really great though, loud, messy, overwhelming at times, but still great. I would love to have a few more, even though my last pregnancy kicked my butt, but we are most likely done.

I also got my first nasty reaction to the number of kids I have today. These people actually stopped their car and gave the standard, "are these all yours" question (they counted my kids before stopping) and then said "do you know what causes that now?" and although I was slightly nnoyed I tolerated the rudeness and just said "yeah", but then they start laughing as they drive away, and the passenger actually turned around to laugh some more. I was so pissed and hurt. How is it "funny" for someone to have a lot of kids wth is wrong with that? It kind of made me feel like I was back in high school or something. I wish that I had reacted better and put them in their place or something. I just keep dwelling on it instead.
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[QUOTE=wehave5boyshelp;11957052 Sometimes I even have to count cuz i can't tell if they are all there or not - 1, 2, 3, 4..... 5? 5!? where is 5!?- Oh wait, here he is. So far we haven't permanently lost anyone [/QUOTE]

i have 4 boys and i do this all the time! they are like the tazmanian devil, non-stop movement!
post #377 of 419
QUESTION:

How many kids do you have?
How many bedrooms and bathrooms and square footage in your house/apartment?
What do you WANT?
Do you feel it's important to have a bigger house with more children?

Currently:
4 kids, 2 adults
3 bed/2 bath/1,100sq
Would like around 1500-1700sq for more kitchen, dining, storage, office space.

Ppl think we're crazy to have 4 kids in a small house, but I think it keeps you closer as a family (I came from a larger home with less kids and my own room and could go a week without seeing a parent and never had to share or "live with" my bro at all except for sharing a bathroom.

I'd like a little more functional space, but not a ton of extra space just to have "room" you know?
post #378 of 419
Summertime Mommy, I am sorry you had to deal w/such rude people! I am so : just reading about it. I can't imagine how you felt. mama. We know how awesome it is to have a big family.

GinaRae, we have a small home too and people also think we're nuts. We are very happy though. Recently we visiting my BIL in his ginormous house. We felt so lost there. We never knew where the kids were or what they were doing. We kept finding ourselves huddled up together in the smallest room. It was actually pretty funny.
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Thanks max. I needed that hug.

We have a pretty small house too. 3br/2ba around 1100sq/ft, but we like it (thank God for bunkbeds). I just moved and we have a garage for the first time ever, and it is heavenly to not have to find storage inside the house for all of our stuff. Right now, we are working on chores and organization. I have cosiderred taking a cue from the Duggars and doing different zones the kids are each responsible for, but I am not sure how well it would work out in our family. Right now, I just assign things randomly, but that means things don't always get done. Does anyone have any good ideas about delegating chores and keeping the house running well?
post #380 of 419
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Originally Posted by GinaRae View Post
QUESTION:

How many kids do you have?
How many bedrooms and bathrooms and square footage in your house/apartment?
What do you WANT?
Do you feel it's important to have a bigger house with more children?



I'd like a little more functional space, but not a ton of extra space just to have "room" you know?
2 adults/ 5 kids + 1 on the way/ 1 cat & 1 dog
we have a 3 bedroom house, 1 bathroom ~ 1200 sq ft only

I would like to have the following ~
a dining room or kitchen BIG ENOUGH to seat all of us
at least 1 more bedroom
1 more bathroom

I don't think we necessarily need a HUGE house ~ but as the PP stated, more functional space would be great! We have no dining room & a relatively small "cozy" kitchen & the table can only fit the kids ~ so DH has been standing to eat for a few years now & I recently joined that in the last year. Another bathroom would be nice to just be able to pee in peace ~ and the bedroom would be great so that everyone could double up vs having 3 kids in a REALLY SMALL room!

Dana
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