tribe for large families/mamas of many kids? - Page 3

[hawkfeather]

yeah the best question so far.."don't you know about safe sex..."..

people ask my age all the time as well.. I am 29 with five kids. I never think of my family s big- people seem to see my kids as a unit of some kind, but i can't help but just see each of them. I hear *you must be busy* everyday, and no i am not, I do not think of my family as work- it is just my life.

[MamaTaraX]

I can't wait to have a fourth so I can join this tribe!
(big family wannabe, current mama to three hoping for more!)
I love love love big families and wish there were more of them these days

Namaste, Tara

[queenofhercastle]

Originally Posted by hawkfeather

I never think of my family s big- people seem to see my kids as a unit of some kind, but i can't help but just see each of them. I hear *you must be busy* everyday, and no i am not, I do not think of my family as work- it is just my life.

Same here. I don't think of raising my kids as work either. I not only love my kids but I like being around them. They're so much fun and they make me laugh all the time!

It is work and I am busy but why does that have to be a bad thing? Any work that you enjoy doesn't feel like work at all.

[JessC]

Well, I'm pregnant with my 5th... only 2 living children (well,3, counting the new human bean: )
But I do want a big family.... basically QF. I love hearing all your input. It's so great.
Most people around here consider 3 kids a big family, and they gripe about how expensive it is, and how the kids fight, etc. VERY good to hear that it can be fun!

[AngelBee]

Originally Posted by JessC

Well, I'm pregnant with my 5th... only 2 living children (well,3, counting the new human bean: )
But I do want a big family.... basically QF. I love hearing all your input. It's so great.
Most people around here consider 3 kids a big family, and they gripe about how expensive it is, and how the kids fight, etc. VERY good to hear that it can be fun!

I spend way less then most of the mamas with two in my area.

That comment always drives me nuts!

[7kiddosmom]

I agree we spend less than most people do on one or two children. My kids son't have a lot of "stuff" and the older girls take good care of their clothes so we are able to pass them down and share. We do spend more on groceries, but it isn't a crazy amount.

I think that if the kids were in PS it would probably be more expensive. As of now we are homeschooling. I can't imagine buying backpacks, school supplies and clothes for my 5 that would be in school this year. I bought a few things while they were on sale but not nearly as much as if I had to buy for each child. They learn to share very well.

[mommyto4grits]

I have 4 girls, and I am definatley in! I am an only child, so my parents totally think we're nuts. I really never thought of having a big family, but now I could definately see having a few more. I get the same rude c@@p from people... Are they all yours, Are you done, Don't you want a boy, 4 girls WOW, Oh My G**!

Like it would be any different if they were all boys or boys and girls. People are so rude. I would never ask something like that, ...
I drive an '06 Toyota Sienna and all the seatbelts have shoulder belts. It is so great to know there are so many other large family's out there!
Some of the great things...
Built in playmate
Having someone to help out (I agree though not always willingly)
The joy of watching these little babies grow and become little people
The not so great things...
Laundry
Laundry
Dishes
Oh and Laundry!

[forty's_wifey]

New here! Mama of 4 and soon to be 5 in october. My mother threatened to cut my husbands thing off if i dont get my tubes tied! Im young, so she wasnt ok with any of them, until they got here then she loved them to pieces.

I take the bus, i dont have a car or minivan LOL and lemme tell ya catchin the bus with all these kids is NOT a fun time. But i do what i gotta do!

I love having a big family, and i love my kids love eachother so much and they are so close and are so loving to eachother, with the exception of fighting over toys, they are so good to eachother, and i know when they get older they will benefit from having a big, close, loving family.

[Nursingnaturalmom]

NAKing....

mommyto4grits,
We just had our 4th girl 3.5 weeks ago and we get the "oh 4 girls??? Have fun in the teen years". Yeah, whatever! LOL I love having all girls and hope to have a couple more girls.
I'm also an only child and my Mom just doesn't understand why I have all these kids. I"m not sure when 4 got to be "all these kids".

Chandi

[mommyto4grits]

Congratulations on your newest girl! My daughter has a friend named Aubrey, I love it, you don't hear it to often.
That does drive me crazy, oh 4 girls and the irls part seems to be long and drawn out as in "oh, 4 girrrlzzz". What is the big deal? And what really gets me is they say it in front of my kids.
What are people thinking!
Congrats again!

[kiwimumtomykidz]

We get that too - with five girls .... although I've noticed that it's recently changed to "aren't you glad they aren't all BOYS!" We'll no, I wouldn't mind either way really!

[kimmom]

We are expecting number 4 for me and 5 for hubby sometime in the spring don't know the dates yet.. This is the first time we have waited to tell people for the first 3 mons.. Mainly due to their reactions. "Oh my should I say Congrats!" "What are you going to do?" "Trying for that boy are you??". It is amazing how people just say those things and in front of my kids!! I get are they all yours and I am not showing yet! I haven't told my mom because she has been lecturing me on not having any more! We are thrilled.. Anyone else have their kids close together? We will have 4 under 5 for a few months until our oldest turns 5.. Glad to find this foum, I am new to it!!

[maof5]

Hello, it is nice to see there are more larger families out there. You hardly ever see more then 3 kids and that seems like a big family, we are just sick We had our 1st ds in 93 and waited 4 yrs. before dd. Then 5 yrs. later we were in a better financial position and said "lets have one more." We'll my dd's were 6 years apart and "I" thought maybe we should have ONE more so she wouldn't feel like a sort of only child growing up. I just happened to get pregnant a little quicker than I wanted and they were only 15 months apart. So we made an appt. for dh to get the big snip snip. He had to work late that night and missed the appt. and low and behold 14 months later came my little Miyah but before my little angel was born, I took him to the dr. my self when I was 8 mo. pregnant and pushed him out of the car and didn't let him back in until he was finished with his date with the scissors. I did feel sort of like an elephant with the whole pregnant for 3 years thing.

When I told my oldest son about our 3rd daughter it was exciting and he cut the cord (home/waterbirth) Then we told him about the 4th he was just like OKAY that's alot of kids! Then I sat him down and told him about the 5th and he just shook his head and just looked at me and said "How did this happen???" I asked him if he really wanted to know and he promptly said "NO that's fine!"
Now my pumpkin is 15 months and tonight my oldest said "She is soooo cute and sweet" "I couldn't imagine life without her!"
I never thought I would have a family this big but it is the best thing in the WORLD! I can honestly say I LOVE it! It can be crazy at times but over all it's great. By the way, we drive a ford excursion (seats 8) and we absolutely love it! Terrible on gas mileage though (11 miles to the gallon: )

[queenofhercastle]

Originally Posted by Nursingnaturalmom

NAKing....

mommyto4grits,
I"m not sure when 4 got to be "all these kids".

I know! Even before I had kids I never thought of 4 kids as a lot. My goodness, when I had 3 people said I had "a lotta kids." I just don't understand that. I grew up in 3 kid family and it did not feel big to me!

[cfiddlinmama]

kimmom - I had 4 under 5 for one month. My oldest turned 5 when my baby was 1 month old! It's fun! (ok not all the time, but mostly!) I love how close my kids are and how much they love each other. We only have one bathroom and right now all 4 are in there! My dd1 wants that toilet and the boys are washing their feet in the bathtub and the baby is just gettting in on the action! : I think it's funny that people think 4 is a big family. I come from 10 living (5 mc and my brother's twin died at 5 months gestation.) My husband comes from 11. I swear 10 doesn't even feel that big! My mom only has 5 at home and it seems so small! She even drives a minivan now! It's weird! I think it's cool for parents like us to have lots of kids, it means their will be more AP parents in the generation to come and a lot less criminals! Yay for us!

[queenofhercastle]

I love to hear about people who grew up in large families deciding to have large families themselves. It means that they had a great experience growing up and they want to give their kids the same thing. That's wonderful.

For a while I was worried because a lot of people I knew who grew up in big families only had 2 kids or no kids. Made me wonder what was so bad about their childhood. Now these were not people from my generation but my parents' generation. But it's great to know that my generation had positive experiences in their big families.

[7kiddosmom]

Originally Posted by queenofhercastle

I love to hear about people who grew up in large families deciding to have large families themselves. It means that they had a great experience growing up and they want to give their kids the same thing. That's wonderful.

For a while I was worried because a lot of people I knew who grew up in big families only had 2 kids or no kids. Made me wonder what was so bad about their childhood. Now these were not people from my generation but my parents' generation. But it's great to know that my generation had positive experiences in their big families.

I think that our parents and grandparents generations became more focused on income and many women went to work. Babies and family were put on the back burner and career and status were much more important.

[mommaduck]

(checks the number of hearts in her siggy) Yep! I've got enough

[magentamomma]

We arre pregnant with our fourth and already having some of our family and friends think we are crazy. They also assume this will/must be our last right!?! I am not dead or menapausal so I cannot guaruntee any thing LOL DH and I both want a big family but I do realize we are entering the place where it will be harder to get invitations to dinner or to be a house guest any where. Plus the car thing we only have one car so if my husband is working I have to rely on friends and it has gotten way to complicated to transport. Oh well My girls are alittle sad that we can't take their friends with us places.

[queenofhercastle]

Welcome and congratulations on #4 magentamomma! No one here will tell you you're crazy, that's for sure!