Originally Posted by thewaggonerfamily
Could you elaborate on this? I completely agree with everything you wrote, so I am not baiting you. I realize that you may need to word carefully or PM me because of the UA, but I'd really like to know how the arguments are identical.
My statement :
"And to be quite frank, most of the arguments that are used for limiting the number of children you have are identical to the arguments used to justify abortion. And that is against our beliefs.""Why get an abortion?"
Here is one link that lists reasons why women get abortions:Why do women seek abortions?
Now:"Why use Birth Control?"
~They do not have the financial resources to bring up a child.
~They are not ready for the responsibility of raising a child.
~They feel their life would be changed too much. She might have a plan for her future (education, developing a career, etc.) that does not allow for having a child at the present time.
~Her relationship with her partner is in difficulty.
~They are too young.
~The children are grown and they do not want to start another family.
~They have all the children they can handle, or all the children they want.
~They are afraid that they will have "too many" children.
Oh, and don't forget the old "over population" thing.
Sound familiar? The "reasons" are almost identical. And most of them come back to selfish reasons (MY lifestyle is more important than having another child, My career is more important, it is just the wrong time, I just don't want any more, I paid my dues and now it's time for me to have my life back, etc.
) or fear and lack of trust in God (I can't handle more, we can't afford more, etc.
I think when a person strips away all the excuses they have and go all the way to the core of the reasons for not having a child, in almost all of the cases selfishness or lack of trust in God are the root causes. (I can hear my child asking, "But why?" as I explain something, and I have to keep going deeper until there is no more "why's" left.)
And since selfishness is a sin, anything that springs from selfishness is wrong. And lack of trust in God is also a sin, therefore the same thing applies.
I won't judge anyone for their choices, but most people just accept it as "normal" and never give it a moments thought.
And I am not saying that there may not be a legitimate reasons for preventing a child, but I really believe it is something that should never be taken lightly and that before one does so, they should dig really deep to find the core of their reasoning.
Why are they really opposed to trusting in God for their fertility? What are they basing their decision on? Because a decision in a Christian's life should not be based on sin or fear.
Anyways, that is my "theology" behind my comment. Hope it answered your question.