I haven't read all of the replies.
But she sounds like a vile person who should be fired as a teacher.
Let me explain why I feel this way. I'm sure you will understand.
When I was in grade 4, my mum died. I took a week off. Then back at it.
My teacher was very mean to me.
I was having problems adjusting and concentrating.
My dad was also mentally and physically abusive to me.
I had (and still do) have terrible problems with math.
This woman would keep me back from recess, gym, art--you name it-so I would finish work.
2 weeks after my mum died, she told me that unless I finished my math homework while everyone else was in gym, I couldn't participate in the May day -may pole dance-which grade 4's did every year.
I cried the whole time.
She belittled me and was very mean the rest of the year.
I'm 35 now and told my dad about all this a couple of years ago. I cried like a baby. (and called her the C word)
All this to say that this byotche can have long term implications for your DD's self esteem and mental health.
IMO she is either having-or is on the edge of having panick attacks.
This wicked woman without an ounce of empathy needs to be talked TO by her headmaster.
Does the school have a psychologist that could break down your DD's issues in bite sized chunks for this woman to understand?
Or could that cause more ridicule for your DD?
The fact that she was like this 20 years ago-and still like this makes me nuts.
How many kids has she turned off of school?
AAARGH-can you tell this is bringing up issues for me??
BTW-whenever I go to school functions-she is there. She used to be the head of junior school for a while. She tried to speak to me and I turned and walked away.
I shopuld have had the ovaries to tell her my feelings.
Sorry. I'll stop now.
Whatever you decide-make sure there is someone else there to witness everything!