I never post here but wth I figure
My son turned 3 in July and I'm a sahm/wahm now for 6 years. I am sending him to preschool. GASP - horrible mother! Why should any 3yo be in school? You've not met my son
. The whole POINT of AP is reading YOUR OWN CHILDs cues and knowing what you need to do to be the best mama to YOUR OWN CHILD . Imho only of course.
My daughters are turning 17 and turning 6.
With the oldest I was a single mother and staying home with her was not an option. I was with my 6yo dd til she started public kindergarten, she was homeschooled for preK since I do homedaycare and did beautifully. She couldn't wait to go to school like big sister, had no transition issues and never had honestly. Soon as she could walk she'd go to sunday school class at church with a big smile and a wave.
My son is velcro boy. He has transition issues. He also has some speech/language issues. He "needs" in my opinion the structure of a preschool setting. He cries for 2 minutes when we leave him in sundayschool class and when we peek in the window when he stops he's smiling, interacting and coloring or running around after the other kids like a happy normal kid.
I also do homedaycare. I have a 4yo since he was 2 . For the first year he'd cry every day when mama left. I'd hug him and tell him mama would be back in just a bit and then we'd go into the playroom and play and he was fine - within minutes. Not fine like I don't know that he was actually terrified and clamming up and unable to share his fear - fine as in giggling his head off, telling me stories about his night with his parents and asking if we could do playdough now instead of after lunch fine. Same with the 18mo I watch now twice a week - he cries some days and others he doesn't. On the days he cries his mama kisses him, tells him she'll be back in just a bit and leaves. She calls me from the car outside my driveway to hear that he has indeed stopped crying and is playing happily which by the time she gets in her car and hits my number on speed dial - he is. He loves being here. He plays with the other children. He dances and he giggles and he is absolutely a darling kid who hates when his mom leaves. I understand that. Most kids hate when mama has to leave but for some folks - not working outside the home is not an option. I know this as I was a single mama with my oldest - I had no choice but to work. So in some cases, its just the dang truth and folks need to quit judging and deal with that.
My son is my son. I know him better then you or anyone else could. I'm sure the OP knows her son better then any of us can even think we know him lol.
She knows if he will sincerely benefit from a preschool program. I'm sure, like me, she's checked out several. We chose the church program at our home church since he knows the room - he goes there every sunday. I love their philosophy, their curriculum and their gentle nature. The teachers did a home visit and brought him a book of pictures of the school and things he'll do at school. The first day I'll stay with him the entire 2.5 hours. The next time he'll go alone. Its 2.5 hours a day, two days a week. I believe he is BORED here with me and 2 daycare babies (and I can't not have daycare babies or I would have to go to work full time outside the home or we'd lose our house).
He needs someone actively working on speech with him - other then me. He needs to be around children his own age. He will benefit from a bit of separation from me and daddy - not like i'm putting him in daycare 40 hours a week.
I believe it will be good for both of us for him to have other outside activities other then an hour at the library once a week, an hour at the park three times a week, the zoo once a month etc.
But what I believe isn't what you or someone else believes - and thats ok.
To the OP I'll just say that in my opinion if your child cries for a few minutes (not more then 5) with a teacher hugging him telling him mama will be back soon, redirecting him to an activity and then he has a BLAST for the next 2 hours and 25 minutes - its really ok. and its not cio
then again. I stopped coming to MDC for so long because I'm too mainstream.
Bfing, cosleeping, clothdiapering, nonvaxing and all that doesn't seem to 'count' when your kids are over 3 and things are changing. I don't homeschool. My kids need to be ready for kindergarten cuz when they start I'll be working full time to get our sorry butts out of this huge whole sahm'ing has created lol. Totally worth it - but I will need to help dig us out when its over.
Mama to a junior in highschool, a 1st grader and a boy starting preschool in two weeks
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