Stupid ? re: being bi - Page 2

[PrairieBohemian]

Originally Posted by pinkmilk

I would never get flustered over a man.

OMG do I get flustery. And giddy. And shy. And excited. I'm getting flustery just thinking about it!

[A&A]

Originally Posted by wende

My dh has the same theory. That we are all bi on some scale.

Not everyone, but perhaps a lot of people have that potential. If you're somewhere in the middle, but in a hetero relationship, does it really matter? Why do you have to figure out the percentages? ("I'm 97.5% straight and 2.5% bi," or whatever.)

[A&A]

Originally Posted by Kaitnbugsmom

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Being with a man makes me no less bisexual than one of my ex girlfriends being with a woman exclusively right now while her dh is deployed..

I know this is off-topic, but I'm really really curious........does the dh in this case consider her relationship with a woman cheating? Or he is ok with it? Or is he left out of the information loop?

[vamp127]

Originally Posted by pinkmilk

mmmmmmmmmmm..............I don't know..........I have these cravings..........comparable to pregnancy cravings.........and it's not for other guys. I can't describe it. And it actually scares me/freaks me out enough as to not even phone a fellow bi-friend cuz I was scared I might like her too much when I was suppose to see here. It's so different for me. I would never get flustered over a man. (well, maybe a Queen).

It makes me want to pull out all my pink hair!

I think because my relationship with DH is more like past relationships with girls, that I "lean" more towards women. Very rarely do I see other men that I am attracted to, and when I do they are usually total queens. I keep telling DH that deep down inside me is a queen waiting to come out I've also told him that if anything were to happen to him, I would probably end up with a girl, too.

The whole "manly man" thing does nothing for me--I suppose that's why a couple of my xbf's ended up coming out later on.

It's kind of funny--my mom (73yo) is in a book group and they just read Middlesex. Most of the women in the group started talking about how, if they had it to do over, they wouldn't have gotten involved with men and just did it to ensure that they would have children.

[PrairieBohemian]

Originally Posted by vamp127

Most of the women in the group started talking about how, if they had it to do over, they wouldn't have gotten involved with men and just did it to ensure that they would have children.

(I feel this way too)

I put the brackets there because its a deep secret so shhhhhhhhhhh....

but I DO love dh! He's pretty damn cool--for a man.

[maigheach]

ok, stupid question time... what would you say defines a "queen"? i've heard the term before, but am really not up on the jargon in the gay community.

[tatangel19]

I like to think of myself as having a whimsical disregard for gender.

[autumnbloom]

I feel that i can understand where people come from, but am not bi myself. Its interesting to read this thread, and I find it educational too

[PrairieBohemian]

Originally Posted by autumnbloom

not to change the subject at all, but does anyone else find themselves having crushes (either sex) even though they're married or in a committed relationship? what do you do??
:

just try not to let it get carried away! And if it does, I guess I'd have to take a good look at my marriage to see if it was still a healthy place to be.

[Indigo73]

See, I don't believe there is only one true love for each person, so I think crushes are healthy.

Course, my dh & I have an open marriage so we can explore those crushes if we are moved to.

[autumnbloom]

thanks for your responses ladies! i dont think antyhing would ever come of this crush even if i really wanted it to... Its more just a googly-eyes kinda thing lol.

[pinkmilk]

Originally Posted by maigheach

ok, stupid question time... what would you say defines a "queen"? i've heard the term before, but am really not up on the jargon in the gay community.

hi...sorry...when I said queen i meant a drag queen. But I think others may include a feminine man as a queen.(?)Which is also hot in my books. But not as hot as a "butchy dyke". Actually androgony is as hot as it gets for me. Now i'm rambling:

[pinkmilk]

Originally Posted by animus_silvae

OMG do I get flustery. And giddy. And shy. And excited. I'm getting flustery just thinking about it!

: (just figured out the name change!)(takes me a while)

[PrairieBohemian]

Originally Posted by pinkmilk

Actually androgony is as hot as it gets for me.

TOTALLY. OMG, totally.

Remember Shirley Manson in the "Androgyny" video? THAT is hot. All that being said, I do think I prefer lipstick lesbians most of all.

[pinkmilk]

Originally Posted by animus_silvae

I do think I prefer lipstick lesbians most of all.

hm...then it's settled....I'm your gal.

[PrairieBohemian]

oh pinkmilk, you have stolen my heart...

[pinkmilk]

smile

[maigheach]

Thanks for the reply. I noticed I have a "thing" for men with long hair, though I have not really encountered androgyny in my life. I do seem to like men with what others would consider "feminine" attributes.

[vamp127]

Originally Posted by pinkmilk

hm...then it's settled....I'm your gal.

Originally Posted by animus_silvae

oh pinkmilk, you have stolen my heart...

Originally Posted by pinkmilk

smile

Ummm, pinkmilk . . . . . . . I thought you were my gal!





BTW, totally have to agree on the whole androgyny thing. I do have a thing for girliness, though, too . . .(probably because I'm not )

[PrairieBohemian]

Originally Posted by vamp127

Ummm, pinkmilk . . . . . . . I thought you were my gal!

I think we are old enough to know how to share now, aren't we girls?