what parenting-related mistake do you regret the most? - Page 3

[Tonia80]

With my 1st...the list is long......having him circed, having him in a hospital, getting him vaxed till age 18 months, letting him CIO, not babywearing more often, quitting nurisng at 6 weeks, spanking him as a toddler.....
With my 2nd child, listening to the doctor who told me I had to wean if I was going to take a medicine....
With my 3rd child, not doing an unassisted homebirth like I so passionatly wanted to.

[Tonia80]

Oh, I forgot one, when my first son was a newborn he screamed fro a week straight. I just thought it was colic. Then we took him to the ped. and he showed us our ds had a undescended testicle and needed surgery! I felt so horrid that he had been in pain all week and I hadnt a clue. i knew so little about my body and DS's body then!! Now I know how to check for stuff like that!

[alisonsvw]

regrets....

I am a yeller, I LOATHE it, something i drasticly have been working on. I am a reformed spanker, when DS was born (1999) I swore up and down i would never spank my children I was a victim of spanking.. and circumstances let to my being a single frusterated, impatient mother, when he was around 2 I started with the occasional swat on the bottom. It just got worse over time, my own issues spilled into parenting my son. looking back i was a mess, I got some councelling and it helped me. Ive found MDC, I no longer spank, it has been so long, i cant remember when i last spanked him, my 3 yo has never been spanked. I hope i dont get flamed. I just want to be honest.
thank you.

[Sydnee]

Oh man, there is sooo much I regret with my first. I regret weaning her at 8 months, even though I know that I was ready at that time. I regret all the interventions I had during her birth. I regret vax'ing my first 2 no questions asked. I regret losing my temper BAAAD when I was pregnant with DD#2, poor Rachel, she got the shaft of it all.

[Sydnee]

Originally Posted by alisonsvw

I am a yeller, I LOATHE it, something i drasticly have been working on. I am a reformed spanker, when DS was born (1999) I swore up and down i would never spank my children I was a victim of spanking.. and circumstances let to my being a single frusterated, impatient mother, when he was around 2 I started with the occasional swat on the bottom. It just got worse over time, my own issues spilled into parenting my son. looking back i was a mess, I got some councelling and it helped me. Ive found MDC, I no longer spank, it has been so long, i cant remember when i last spanked him, my 3 yo has never been spanked. I hope i dont get flamed. I just want to be honest.
thank you.

Hey, no flaming here, mama!!! We've all been there!!!

[Queen of Cups]

I'm a yeller, too, and I feel terrible about it. That's my biggest parenting regret. My second regret is too much tv.

[MelKnee]

I regret one thing. Being a sheeple with my first ds.

I listened to the sOB, instead of trusting my instincts.

[Sharlla]

Having kids too young. I was 18 when I got PG with DS1, I really wish I had waited until I was mentally ready for kids. I totally wasn't at that time.

[uberwench]

I, too, am a yeller.
I have a long long fuse, but when it blows, it blows loud and fierce, like a line squall. I do apologize to DS afterwards, particularly if i've gotten angry over something ridiculously minor that, under normal circumstances i wouldn't have bat an eyelash over. But still, i hate that i do that yelling thing.:

I regret not trying harder with a baby sling early on. I ended up just carrying him around the house or lying around with him on the couch for the first few months because we couldn't ever get the "hang" of the sling. I think we would have been able to get out more if we'd persevered.

I regret that i was so miserable and scared with PPD after ds was born that i didn't really enjoy his little baby-ness. I wish i'd been in a better state mentally, or had found help earlier.

[thefragile7393]

Awww mama!!!! My heart breaks for you. I had pregnancy-induced depression through most of it and it makes me mad that I didn't enjoy it as I could have because I was always so blasted depressed. I'm sooo sorry you missed out on your babymoon! {{{hug}}}

[QueenOfThePride]

My biggest regret is vaccinating by the recommended schedule for the first year. I didn't even question it or inform myself about non-vaxing. Well, now I know thanks to MomtezumaTautara! No more vaxes for my babe.

[Jade2561]

I regret anytime I've ever yelled and made dd feel like she was not my number one priority. I regret when I'm impatient and forget that she's still just a baby. :

[minkajane]

I regret not standing up for my rights and refusing the C/S because DS was breech. I regret not telling DH to refuse vitamin K and eye goop. I regret vaxing till 2 months.

I am also a reforming yeller. I do raise my voice when DS gets really whiny, but I haven't actually yelled in a long time.