With the twins, my DH had 2 weeks paid and then took 2 week vacation. With my youngest, he had a week paid and then took a week vacation.
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9/27/06 at 9:52am
My husband works for a company small enough to fall outside the requirements of the federal Family and Medical Leave law. So, he was not able to take even the unpaid 12 weeks.
He took 5 days of paid vacation following the birth.
He also believes that men do not take paternity leave and that even in companies that offer paternity leave, it is frowned upon for a man to take more than a week or two off. He think it would stunt his career.
I disagree with him because where I work, men take paternity leave up to 3 months off and it is viewed the same as if a mother took maternity leave.
I'm curious if others have noticed or felt a double standard for women and maternity leave versus men and paternity leave? Are they treated equally?
I definitely think there is a double standard - but you have to start somewhere. Someone has to be the pioneer. Someone has to take the leave, stand-up to the snickers and the criticism and PROVE that it doesn't have to ruin your career.
My DH - lowly legal assistant did it. The women were supportive and I think more than a few high-powered (male) lawyers thought twice about how nice it would be to put family first for once. Someone has got to be the first one to take it. No it's not easy, but neither have any of the rights we've fought for. It's never easy to be the first person to do something but stand up and be brave. Have courage! Fight the system.
Yeah - As I wrote it, I was really proud of him. For the record, he took 8 weeks FMLA - unpaid. He had saved up about 2 weeks vacation, so some of it was paid. He took his leave AFTER I went back to work so it was nice for baby to get time with Daddy early in her life.
Since we get paid parental leave, it is not looked down upon at all. But I think it was when it was first implemented. Everyone I know has taken at least a bit of parental leave, and all of my partner's coworkers have as well.
My DP was only at his new job for 15 weeks before he started his 17 week leave, and it's not a problem at all.
DH just found out that in his current job there is no paternity leave. He may use his sick days, I think he will have 8 days by the time of the birth. He was told he could qualify for FMLA unpaid. I really wanted to lay in with the baby this time, but we definately can't afford any time off unpaid. What's funny is that here in Japan women typically stay in bed with their babes for a month and dads here get 2 months off work--paid.
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