|Originally posted by PerfectLove
[B]Okay, I may be alone in this, but...
Just look at nature. Look at us! We have breasts with milk and wombs and nuturing hormones. Men have penis's and are taller and stronger and hairier! There is no denying we have different abilities, and were made for different things.
If my house was on fire, would a woman firefighter be able to pull dh out? Maybe not, but a man could.
If a newborn baby was left alone with daddy for three hours, would daddy be able to keep him happy? Maybe not, but mommy could.
I really think you are wrong about this. A female firefighter has to be able to pull your husband out of a burning house, or she can't get the job. If she can't physically carry him, she can learn other ways to get him out. Right? Because as human beings, we can use tools and figure things out with our brains. And we can work together to get the job done!
My husband can't produce breastmilk, but if I leave him with expressed breastmilk, he can keep the baby happy for three hours. He knows how to keep the baby happy! In fact, when I go off to work tomorrow morning for the first time since my ds was born, guess who is going to be taking care of ds? That's right, Daddy. It's true that even after only two months, we have different parenting styles. I learned mine from my dad and he learned his from his mom!
I have ambivalent feeling about the baby X experiment. On the one hand, I don't want to limit my baby to only being good at boy things. On the other hand, I don't want for a minute to give the impression that boys aren't great! I like little boys. I was very psyched to have one, because the little boys I know are a lot of fun!
I don't know how much of what's different about boys is nature and how much is nuture, but I also know that little boys are different. They learn to talk later, they run around more, and their imaginative play can sometimes look different. That doesn't limit their ability to be loving people, good daddies and peaceful adults.