I like lilyka's questions.
|Even though you are planning to vax, I would ask what his/her policy is with parents who don't vax.
I was thinking the same thing. The suggestion to go to Finding Your Tribe is a great one. That's where I found a local mama's group where I received excellent recommendations for a pediatrician, family doctor, chiropractor, o/b, doula and birthing instruction. Besides that, they are a great group of women with whom I have common parenting values. They made me so comfortable at the first playdate.
Imo, you should try to seek out a ped. or family doctor with a more natural approach to medicine, like a DO, homeopath or naturepath. It's difficult to find a doctor who practices 100% mainstream medicine, yet thinks you don't need all of the medical community's recommended vaccines.
I found a ped, while pg, who came highly recommended and said, in the interview, that she would respect our decision not to vax. She was great, never giving me a hassle. However, upon dd's first visit with an ear infection at 2 1/2, she tried pushing antibiotics on me just because I didn't vax (she didn't even remember us from the previous visit a year earlier). It's a long story, but I never went back to that b****. The next day, I took her to a homeopath who could not find an infection. I had been treating it naturally, which the ped. told me couldn't be done, and it had healed. I felt extremely betrayed. I trusted her to be respectful and put my child's health first, not her ego. She also, at that visit, tried to get me to sign her waiver for the first time. It stated that I acknowledge my negligence and that my negligence could cause the death of my child or another's. So, be sure to ask about a waiver and to see a copy of one. Needless to say, I didn't sign it.
I was one who thought I needed to go to a pediatrician because I needed a relationship with one, just in case my child got really sick. The truth is, these peds see so many patients that the only way they are going to remember you is if your child is sick on a regular basis. And, if they get really sick, you'll either be in the ER being seen by an unknown dr. or referred to a specialist. Many peds will tell you they respect your decision to delay, but just think they can convince you to conform.
Good luck in your search. And, if you are confident your child is healthy, don't feel so obligated to go to those "well baby checks" every couple of months if you are not vaccinating at that time. Good luck.