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post #101 of 110
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Originally Posted by Roar
As I posted earlier in the thread my 10 year old goes into the men's room alone.

Do you think that referring to people who exercise caution as "fear mongering" and referring to real children who were hurt as something a million years ago is what is bringing on the negative response here?
I am not responsible for your feelings reguarding my posts. Your interpretation is your own.
post #102 of 110
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Originally Posted by Roar
Do you think that referring to people who exercise caution as "fear mongering" and referring to real children who were hurt as something a million years ago is what is bringing on the negative response here?
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Originally Posted by UUMom
I am not responsible for your feelings reguarding my posts. Your interpretation is your own.
The overriding theme of a majority of your posts seem to center around fear.

You specifically said fear-mongering in two of your posts.


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Originally Posted by UUMom
It's a shame so many live in fear of the simplest things. The statistics are with us, but the fear-mongering continues just the same.

Caution is one thing, fear-mongering is another. I simply can't accept it's healthy for 14 yr olds to be so protected that they can't use a public bathroom.

We are living in fear of our own making. That's not healthy for us, and certainly not for our children.

I think rejecting the fear *does* help some people to handle the fact that older kids sometimes must use public bathrooms.

The statistics do not back up our fears. That's a critical point. Our fears are robbing us of letting our kids do normal things without huge anxiety.

Real danger is real, but danger that is imagined is dibilitating and emotionally stunting.
Honestly, I don't see the point of being dismissive of another parents experiences or concerns.

I really don't think the majority of parents are taking their teens into the restroom with them. That was one example listed on the thread. As far as preteen go.....well the parent is the one who knows them the best. If the child has no objections, then why should anyone else. If the child objects and the parent doesn't allow them to go in alone.....maybe the parent has good reasons for it.
post #103 of 110
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Originally Posted by Houdini
The overriding theme of a majority of your posts seem to center around fear.

You specifically said fear-mongering in two of your posts.

Honestly, I don't see the point of being dismissive of another parents experiences or concerns.

I really don't think the majority of parents are taking their teens into the restroom with them. That was one example listed on the thread. As far as preteen go.....well the parent is the one who knows them the best. If the child has no objections, then why should anyone else. If the child objects and the parent doesn't allow them to go in alone.....maybe the parent has good reasons for it.
I suggest you read Protecting The Gift, and Freakanomics.
post #104 of 110
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Originally Posted by UUMom
I suggest you read Protecting The Gift, and Freakanomics.
Been there.....done that. Thanks for the suggestions though.
post #105 of 110
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Originally Posted by Houdini
The overriding theme of a majority of your posts seem to center around fear.

You specifically said fear-mongering in two of your posts.

Honestly, I don't see the point of being dismissive of another parents experiences or concerns.

I really don't think the majority of parents are taking their teens into the restroom with them. That was one example listed on the thread. As far as preteen go.....well the parent is the one who knows them the best. If the child has no objections, then why should anyone else. If the child objects and the parent doesn't allow them to go in alone.....maybe the parent has good reasons for it.
My impression was not that UUMom was accusing other mothers of fearmongering, but the media and society in general in the USA go in for fearmongering, which is giving parents an inflated sense of danger to their children.

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If the child objects and the parent doesn't allow them to go in alone.....maybe the parent has good reasons for it.
Maybe the parent does ....or maybe the parent thinks she does, but in fact has been brainwashed by the media fearmongering.
post #106 of 110
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Originally Posted by choli
Maybe the parent does ....or maybe the parent thinks she does, but in fact has been brainwashed by the media fearmongering.
Or maybe the parent has a clue and is following their instincts.
post #107 of 110
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Originally Posted by choli
My impression was not that UUMom was accusing other mothers of fearmongering, but the media and society in general in the USA go in for fearmongering, which is giving parents an inflated sense of danger to their children.
Is it more polite in your book to call someone a dupe than to call them a fear monger?
post #108 of 110
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Originally Posted by UUMom
I am not responsible for your feelings reguarding my posts. Your interpretation is your own.
Ah, posting information straight from therapy 101.
post #109 of 110
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Originally Posted by Roar
Is it more polite in your book to call someone a dupe than to call them a fear monger?
Try calling me a dupe and I'll let you know.
post #110 of 110
Hi all,

it seems that this issue has been discussed thoroughly. I think the OP has been answered adequately. On that note this thread is now closed though it will remain in the forum for reference.

Thank you,

Kelly
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