well, let's see! I thought that I was adequately prepared. With #1, I attended LLL meetings and hijacked an entire meeting to ask my questions and the leader even got out a video to show me about latching on...brought out the breastfeeding doll, and had me sit next to a nursing mom to watch how she positions, latches, etc. I read books and figured I was armed with info, motivation and the numbers to the LLL leaders, so it had to work. Ds had a 1 min. apgar of 4. he was born blue and limp and not breathing. They took him right away to the warmer where he stayed, crying on and off for 3.5 hours. Stupid me thought "well, if the doctors say he has to be there......" When I finally got to see him and hold him, we were both so tired and just couldn't get a latch. ( I also had multiple interventions with this birth). We kept trying, but everytime I thought he was latched, he would just sit there and not suck. the nurses gave him pacifiers saying that he needed to learn how to suck ??? They also came in every couple of hours to ask if he'd eaten and when I'd say no, they brought a bottle of formula and told me he needed it. I knew better than to touch them and just kept trying with the nursing. then he had some problems and ended up being transferred to the NICU where he stayed for 3 days. I continued trying to nurse him and pumped during the day to leave the milk for him at night when I'd leave him to sleep. So, he had a bottle anyway
we got off to such a rough start and I was so exhausted and worried and tired. oh yeah. THEN when he was 6 days old, I learned that my epis. site was infected and ended up in emergency surgery. They advised me not to nurse him for 48 hours. so with IV's in both arms, I used a manual pump every couple of hours to keep up my supply. I couldn't walk and had to call for a nurse to come and dump the milk and clean the pump. DS had formula for these 2 days as we were NOT prepared for me to have surgery and had no milk pumped for him. I was so stressed out about the whole thing that I told dh if he didn't latch on and nurse when I was able to try again, then he would just stay on formula. smart baby!! I put him on and for the first time he nursed like a complete champ..this after 48 hours of nothing but bottle and formula!
with dd...I had a completely natural birth and held her from the beginning. She was still NOT interested in nursing and flat out refused to try. I did everything I could to encourage her to latch on, but she didn't seem interested and just wanted to sleep all the time. This time I had a super supportive doc and when he came in to check on me I told him my concern (She hadn't latched on EVER and she was almost 24 hours old) he looked at her fat cheeks and said "she's got plenty of fat stores in those cheeks! she'll do it when she's ready, don't give up..keep trying" Of course, I was still nursing ds who was 2 at the time, so I didn't plan on giving up! This continued after we got home except instead of showing no interest she'd show signs of hunger and when I'd try to put her on, she arched her back and screamed like I was hurting her! She did this every time I was getting very engorged and she STILL wouldn't eat. I finally went to the ER with her because she refused to nurse for 18 hours and I knew the ER doc that night was also my LLL leader
When she finally got around to seeing us, dd had JUST latched on and for the first time was nursing peacefully...I thought my problems ended there, but they didn't...we still went through syringe feedings and cup feedings to get her to eat, since for some reason she wouldn't go near my breast, and when she was a few weeks old, they dx her with Failure to Thrive and told me I HAD to supplement because I wasn't making enough milk and I was starving her. Again, I knew better and didn't give her a drop of formula. I actually nursed her and then supplemented with straight hindmilk that I got from the pumped milk after it seperated. I also followed all the advice to make sure she was getting enough hindmilk. She still grew very slowly and was dx again at 12 months with FTT. This time I was told to wean or else!! made no sense to me, so she is still nursing strong at 28 months! Ds made it to 4 years before he weaned himself!!
I've got a new baby coming July and I'm hoping the third time's a charm and it'll go smooth....