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Poll Results: Did you get off to an easy start breastfeeding?

This is a multiple choice poll
  • 34% (45)
  • 40% (52)
    No. And I was prepared (read lots and talked lots to nursing moms)
  • 20% (27)
    No (I thought it was fairly uncomplicated and I was sure surprised when things got rough)
  • 4% (6)
    No (didn't really prepare for bfing)
130 Total Votes  
post #21 of 46
Originally posted by buttercup
I think I fall into the category as a breastfeeding mom even though I technically don't breastfeed. I have been exclusively pump for my daughter for over 9 months.
You're definitely a breastfeeding mom, and you rock!!
post #22 of 46
Thread Starter 
ITA with Jane, buttercup.
post #23 of 46
I don't think that I got off to a particularly rocky start, but it certainly wasn't smooth sailing (is it ever?). DD latched on like a champ the very first time but had some popping on and off issues after that. It took us about 10 weeks to really get the hang of it. I did prepare myself by reading everything I could get my hands on, visualizing myself and baby doing a perfectly lactch even before she was born, and seeing an LC before leaving the hospital even though we weren't really having any issues.
post #24 of 46
I was fully expecting ds to latch on and bf like a champ. My mom was an LLL member, I was bfed until I was 2, I read all sorts of books, took a class etc. When he was born he wasn't interested in my boob. He would sort of latch on and suck, but only for about 30 seconds. The nurses kept trying to give him formula. Saying that if he didn't nurse he would dehyrate. I knew that when he was ready, he would nurse. It was difficult in the hospital. I often lied to the nurses telling them that he had nursed when he hadn't. Finally I talked to an LC who said that I had inverted nipples. This is why he wasn't latching on. She sat with me and we worked on different positions, the football hold worked best for us. Ds would latch on to only the left side for the first day or so. I tried not to get concerned, and wouldn't have if the nurses weren't freaking out. Having my parents and husband fully supporting me kept me trying. Without their support, I may have believed the nurses and given in to some formula. When we got home when he was 2 days old it got a lot easier. We were more relaxed together and my nipples were popping out, thanks to the breast shields I was wearing (not the ones that make your nipples like a bottle, but the ones that you wear to pull them out) I never experienced cracked or sore nipples, and ds has eatin like a champ since he was 2 days old. (He's now 7 months)

I think that no matter how prepared you are, you really need support and confidence. If it isn't clicking, talk to a LLL leader or LC, it makes a HUGE difference.
post #25 of 46
How many of you had an easy start breastfeeding? How many of you ran into some road blocks (or maybe some duct blocks )?

I got mastitus at exactly a week after Sebastian's birth. It was horrible, the fever, the pain and everything. Not to mention, getting basically no sleep since he had been born. I also had horribly painful nipples a few days after my milk came in which made it worse. Plus, I was so concerned about Seb since he was breastfeeding on demand, and, I didnt want to shortchange him.

For those of you who had difficulties, can you expand on why you had difficulties?

I have sensitive skin, and mastitus can happen to anyone so I guess it wasnt anything I really did wrong there. I did massage my blocked duct, warm shower and compress etc but mastitus still happened.

Did you get inaccurate breastfeeding advice?

To tell you the truth, I really didnt get advice, being the young "do it myself" type of gal, I figured when the baby came out that myself and him would know what to do. Not because I didnt ask for it, but because I thought I could handle it by reading a few books and talking to a few moms online about it.

Was it your first born, second, third....?

My first.

Was is it a mental or physical problem?

Both where physical. I was scared though about him getting enough milk since I was so sick only a week after he was born, but, all worked out ok.

Did you have enough postpartum help/support?

Yes! I was blessed with hearing about a breastfeeding class at the hospital I delivered (not LLL, thought they are great there too). The instructor (l.consultant) told me that nipple soreness was normal, and she checked Seb's latch and all was well there so it could be blamed on my sensitive skin. I tried some nipple shields and lansonol and that did the trick after a little while. It was so hard the first few weeks, but I knew that if I could make it through those, that everything would come into place (my l. consultant told me that).

What would you have done differently or do you think that there was anything that you could have done differently?

Nothing really. It was hard being a first time mom, let alone, a first time breastfeeding mom who wasnt going to give in to formula (I am extreamly strong willed and from the second I knew I was preggo, I didnt want my lil one to have formula EVER unless it was a life/death situation). I think that I did fairly well (not to brag) considering my circumstances. My l.c. was right though, I did have almost a month of hell for 8 other months of heaven. To this day, my son has had a few sips of water (from DH's or I's cup out of curiosity) and nothing else to which I am extreamly proud.

post #26 of 46
Good question!

First, let me say that my son is now almost 7 months old and still exclusively breastfed (with very little veggies and fruit every other day).

I LOVE breastfeeding and would not stop for all the money in the world right now. Seriously.

That said, the beginning wasn't easy. I was very well-prepared, had read a lot, talked to a lot of nursing mamas etc. I thought it would be very easy. The first few days were. He took to nursing like a pro right from the start and gained weight within the first few days, never losing much at all. I nursed him on demand and co-slept from the night he was born (still in the hospital). He never left my side.

Back at home I made the HUGE mistake to wear a nursing bra that was a size to small. this gave me a colgged duct which quickly led to mastitis as I was very weakened from the birth still. So within a week of giving birth I ended up back in hospital with a very high fever and high dosages of antibiotics iv. I still kept my son with me at all times though and I made sure that the antibiotics were nursing OKed. He was never supplemented and to this day has never had a drop of formula, juice, water or anything but breastmilk. Something I am very proud of.

My advice would be to expect a few rough weeks but if you stick them out, you will be rewarded a hundred times over. If I was faced with the same decision again, I wouldn't think twice. It was all worth it. I feel that it has made me and our mutual bond even stronger because we made it through together. It was all meant to be.

Now breastfeeding is second nature to me, and I have not had any more problems. I find breastfeeding very relaxing and it is so amazing to see my son grow and thrive -- and to think that that chubby strong little body is all ME.
post #27 of 46
I voted for my experience with DS #1. He was very sleepy and didn't latch on good. I also did not know what I was doing, and had very little help. I called an LLL leader twice, and that helped a little, I had a breastfeeding class when he was 9 days old, and that helped a little, I had an in-home nurse a few days after he was born, and that helped a little. But I was still sore and screaming in pain for 8 weeks. Finally I met someone at church who was nursing her 8 month old. She told me her mother was a lactation consultant. Soon her mother came into the room and I asked her for help. She gave me a few tips, and I had no more problems. It just took the right person with the right kind of advice.

With DS #2, I wanted to do things differently. I did not have any pain medication during labor because I didn't want a sleepy baby. I called my friends mother a few hours after he was born and asked her to please come to the hospital to help us get off to a good start. She came right away, and had him latched on and nursing well within minutes. We havn't had any major problems at all this time, and he's gained a pound in the last week!!! I also had my 5 breastfeeding books with me for reference!!! I really believe a good lactation consultant is a must, and the sooner the better!!!!!!!
post #28 of 46

Re: Did you get off to a good or a rocky start?

Did you get inaccurate breastfeeding advice?

I had preeclampsia, and was on a mag sulfate IV for 20 hours after ds's birth. The pediatrician who saw my son that morning told me that I could not breastfeed on the mag sulfate. I believe that was bad medical advice, and I'm sorry that I didn't get more information.
This doctor "prescribed" formula for my son. I think this compounded an already difficult situation (high blood pressure, fatigue) and my milk was slow to come in. My son was dehydrated on day #5, and we started supplementing then.

Was it your first born, second, third....?

Was is it a mental or physical problem?

Did you have enough postpartum help/support?
Not really. My husband was great, but he was exhausted too. My mother couldn't come because of a surgical procedure, and my MIL did come (which was NOT a help!). Our lactation consultant/Lamaze instructor was fantastic! She called every day for two weeks, and was very supportive.

What would you have done differently or do you think that there was anything that you could have done differently?
I've already made my first change by getting my weight down to a healthy range. I've lost 62 pounds. I've learned more about nutrition, and more about natural healing. I'm also going to a smaller practice with next baby.

Even with our rough start, our nursing relationship has been great! My son is 20 months now, and loves his "nuh sees."
post #29 of 46
I had a hard time with both my kids, for different reasons, although I was well prepared and had good support. With ds, I broke my wrist 2 weeks before I had him and my left wrist was in a cast, which really limited positions! Plus I had flat nipples, had a c-section, and ds wouldn't latch for a week. Once we got home from the hospital, after me agonizing about whether I was starving him, it just "clicked" and he latched on and nursed til he weaned himself at 19 months.
With dd, it was hard because she was 8 weeks premature, couldn't suck, and was bottlefed breastmilk. And the whole NICU thing was a nightmare. The LCs at the hospital were very pro-breastmilk but not so pro-breastfeeding and tried to scare me that if I tried to bf at home, dd would lose weight and get dehydrated. I called LLL and also an LC who I trusted, and we've been doing great since dd got home.
I think there's tons of advice out there and even different LCs can have conflicting opinions. It helps to find one or two people you trust to help you and tune out the rest and also to go with your gut feelings about what's right for you and your baby.
post #30 of 46
Originally posted by buttercup
I think I fall into the category as a breastfeeding mom even though I technically don't breastfeed. I have been exclusively pump for my daughter for over 9 months.

you have no idea how much I admire you. I doubt I would have it in me to pump. And it has been said before, but I will say it agian

You are a breastfeeding mom!
post #31 of 46
Thanks ladies for your kind words and support. I hate pumping, but I'll do anything for my little Helon. I know I would have never continued to do this if everyone around me, including you ladies, had not encouraged and supported me. I have grown much wiser in the Art of Bf just by reading everyone's post. Dh and I plan on getting preggo the end of this year and I will do everthing I can to make it work. If it doesn't, well I already know I am an expert pumper

What will be funny is if I can get my future baby to latch and Helon (who will be around 2) decides she wants to bf because her sibiling is bf.

Thanks again...

Jenni and Helon 6/29/02
post #32 of 46
Once I got dd latched on correctly after a day or two it was easy. THEN, my milk came in and ouch!... I was so engorged that I couldn't bf or pump because neither the pump or the baby could latch on. It was the most painful thing ever (I guess you suffer this if you formula feed).

We used a nipple shield for a week just so dd would have something to latch on and after that we had a wonderful nursing relationship for 20 months (minus the shield of course).

I said we didn't have a rough start, but I was mentally prepared to have to put some work into it, and I think that made the difference. I was so incredibly determined that my dd would never get any formula that I was willing to do whatever it took. LOL

And Jenni- wow! I worked p/t and pumped while at work for 9 months and that was enough work, so I really admire you for pumping day/night!
post #33 of 46
I had easy times with my first four, besides the sore nipples with my first.
My fifth, on the other hand, was a nightmare!
A very difficult home birth following the murder of my father at 5 months, discovering that the father of my children had a whole other family he was keeping on the side at six months, (when I was six months pregnant, his girlfriend shows up my house with a six month old baby : ) my mother's stroke at 8 months, and chicken pox. Me and D(arn)P split up. Went 3 weeks over due. This baby was 9 1/2 pounds, OP, brow presenting, pushed for 5 hours, hemorrhaged, he fractured my coccyx when his head finally descended. He was sleepy, was not interested in nursing AT ALL, took me 3 days to finally get him to take the breast without crying and turning his head away.......I had to wake him up for feeding while taking pain medicine for the fractured coccyx . then we got the thrush, him in his mouth, me on my nipples, I got the plugged ducts, then a fever, then the red streak.....yup, mastitis. Did the antibiotics, which made the thrush worse, and finally after almost 3 months, everything was fine....wheeeeew! I just kept on keeping on, and it all worked out fine in the end.
post #34 of 46
We had a rocky start. I have only one child and I knew it would be work but we had a Csect--after 21 hrs of labor (long story)--and he was kept in the nursery to get warm for 4 hrs before I got to hold him.

He was transferred to the NICU in another city at 18 hrs old because he was vomitting blood--I was still in the other hospital and started pumping right away.

I was released a day and 1/2 later, baby was in the NICU for 5 days and we tried to nurse but it was hard, and the nurses "helped" but didn't really have anything to offer me. On the way home from the baby being discharged we stopped to see a Lconsultant. and she got us started but on a nipple sheild (I did not like that and ds was 4 months old before he would give that darn thing up!!) we had to do the try to nurse, give and expressed bottle, pump, at every feeding. Also the hospital gave me the added stress of telling me that the baby absolutely could not lose weight--he didn't by the way.

Anyway, after 4 months when he finally gave up that sheild I enjoyed nursing--he nursed til 11 1/2 months.

I have big breasts and that was a pain in the neck! next time, I will be more confident--I will be more forceful at the hospital, I will try to nurse longer, I will care less if I have to nurse in public with my big boobs!

post #35 of 46
i'm right in the middle of it. how come this isn't instinctual? damnit.

when Joe was born, I had tons of milk. he never had formula until I had to go back into the hospital 7 days after he was born. I was gone for 8 days. I kept my supply going, but not at the same rate, even tho I couldn't give it to him because I was on meds that weren't good for him. When I got out, it just wasn't the same. he's latched on in the past, he emptied one of my breasts. but, now he just wobbles his mouth over my nipple and then screams. or he'll put his mouth on it, tongue it, but then i have to give him a bottle. and he's getting more forumal than milk. supply is low. it sucks. i'm trying to get the supply back up by pumping more often. i think it's so important that i'd pump forever, but it'd be so much better if he could get it right from the source. i've got lots of support, lc's, a doula, i think the problem is just supply right now. can't use fenugreek because it lowers my blood sugar. gak. we've got him using nipples that he has to suck with, so he's working that part. thanks for the thread. it helps.
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NormalMom, have you tried blessed thistle and alfalfa? What about domperidone? Do a search for domperidone here and you'll find the Newman links plus ordering info.
post #39 of 46
Thread Starter 
NormalMom, I hope things get a bit easier for you down the line. I am glad that you found this thread helpful. I was hoping that women could come here to see that it isn't always easy in the beginning, but for most of us there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I hope that things get easier for Joe. It is good to know that you have lots of support.
post #40 of 46
First, to the pumping moms-- you rock!! That's an awesome thing that you are doing!

I voted that it was tough, but I had lots of help. Our hosptial has a bfing class that was awesome and they encourage partners to come as well. The also have a weekly support group (and met Jish and that saved my life! DD#1 was great at latching on, but took forever to nurse the first few weeks (months?). It was more painful than I could ever imagine for the first 6 weeks... and then plugged ducts that req. antibiotics around 6 mo. After that all was smoothe sailing until we weaned. Nary a drop of formula. (Yeah! I've finally found something I'm good at! )

DD#2 was so very different. She latched on at birth, but then had to have a bottle of sugar water in the nursery (grrr... I shouldn't have let them take her) and refused to nurse for the next 30 hours or so. She'd kind of latch on and then pull off and scream. Of couse, they also gave her a paci (grrr....) and she sucked great on that--so we knew she could suck... Since I had already had one awesome bfing experience I knew I could do it and we stuck with it. Now the babe is 9 mo and won't take a bottle. She's also never had formula and I hope won't have to--especially since I don't know how we'd give it to her!) After the first week we haven't had any problems at all. No pain (except let down) no plugged ducts, just a wonderful bfing experience.
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