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post #41 of 55
8/28/06 at 1:46pm
couldnt read without ((HUGS)))
I hope that things turn out ok.
post #42 of 55
8/28/06 at 2:43pm
Your gut was right afterall. Ds was up to something... just not exactly what you thought. You did a wonderful job handling the situation!


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post #43 of 55
8/28/06 at 7:38pm
My first thought was huffing...I wasn't such an innocent teen and I can still remember the smell and the taste. Eww...and I so wish I had a caring adult who would have stepped up to talk to me. If I were you I would seriously think about how you are going to bring it up with him. You don't want to scare him away but you need him to realize how dangerous it is to do.
post #44 of 55
8/28/06 at 8:11pm
Thread Starter 
Today we went to a youth drug counsellor. He stuck to his story through and through. That he would not and has never inhaled or snorted or huffed or anything like that. I really do believe him. We also did go to the doctor and get his throat checked and an aquesition for blood work and drug testing and tonight dh will take him for the blood work. ( even though I believe him I really feel that following through is the thing to do).

I'm actually really proud of him for not denying the stealing and shoplifting. Tomorrow we are addressing this.

more later.
post #45 of 55
8/28/06 at 11:54pm
I think you are doing awesome!
post #46 of 55
8/29/06 at 1:30am
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i just wanted to add that IF he IS up to something with substances and altering his state of mind it *may* be hard to change that until hes ready BUT since he admitted to shoplifting then psh! i cant imagine hed lie about the rest! you sound like a saint of a mom!
post #47 of 55
8/29/06 at 11:25am
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by MissAbbyRosesMamma
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i just wanted to add that IF he IS up to something with substances and altering his state of mind it *may* be hard to change that until hes ready BUT since he admitted to shoplifting then psh! i cant imagine hed lie about the rest! you sound like a saint of a mom!
Oh my god...I wish!!!

I think the biggest thing that keeps me on track and being the awesome mom that I'm trying SO hard to be is that I keep telling myself.."don't take it personally. This is ds's life. This is his problem. You just have to help him through this."

It is so much easier when I look at it like this. I can be nonjudgemental. I can step back and really see what the best approach is without freaking out at him. And I have to have a continuous dialogue inside my head to stay neutral and unjugemental. So far it's working really well.

And ds really is a super kid. He even has the balls to make a joke about the blood tests. He said " Man...I hope I'm not pregnant". He really is my child!
post #48 of 55
8/29/06 at 4:33pm
I don't know why I didn't think of that reason (removing the front to make the flame higher.) I used to do that all the time because it looked cool and was easier to light things. I never huffed or even though of it.

I think his story makes sense and since he's admitted to all those other things you didn't even ask him about, I'd believe him.
post #49 of 55
8/29/06 at 5:34pm
I just wanted to back you on the following through on the drug testing. If he is telling you the truth- you've still made it known that you are not a clueless mom who'll be easy to get things over on-- and made your stance on drug use VERY clear. If ever confronted with the temptation- atleast that message is already in his head and he knows.. god help me if I do this and my mom finds out...and he know how much you care.
post #50 of 55
8/29/06 at 5:43pm
you can do fun things with lighter flint. including making a spark shower.


my brother used to dismantle lighters to get the flint
post #51 of 55
8/29/06 at 5:49pm
pinkmilk,

OMG I cannot imagine what you're dealing with and am in awe of how well you're doing it. It does seem unlikely that he would lie about it if he was forthcoming about the stealing. At least he is getting a clear message about how much you care.

FTR, I used to do that to lighters, too. I was quite the pyro and loved to see things burn. I remember once even pouring the lighter fluid over my hand and then lighting it. It was kind of like putting your hand in the flame, didn't burn as long as you keep it in the blue part. However, my hair did catch fire and that was not pretty (ewww, smelly).

Now DH won't even let me light the grill --go figure!
post #52 of 55
8/29/06 at 6:43pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkmilk
Is there a way to get high with a broken lighter???

the front part is broken off so it doesn't light...it just hisses out beutain???
Yeah, that's exactly what my friends and I used to do when we were teenagers. Yes, it's possible to get high that way.

Namaste!
post #53 of 55
8/31/06 at 12:04pm
to you!!!
post #54 of 55
8/31/06 at 1:42pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by pinkmilk
Oh my god...I wish!!!
And ds really is a super kid. He even has the balls to make a joke about the blood tests. He said " Man...I hope I'm not pregnant". He really is my child!
Thats good

I really hope it all turns out for the best mama!
post #55 of 55
8/31/06 at 10:35pm
GEEZ i hope for your sake hes not pregnant, can you imagine being the first pregnant male AND being so young!

thats a good way of looking at things tho...i hope to be as calm as you when the time comes!
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