Originally Posted by Shonahsmom
I certainly don't think that they have all the time in the world. Not at all. I do think its fair to say that, for the most part, a SAHM has more flexibility than a WOHM. I realize there are exceptions in both cases.
Prefacing by saying its not a debate, I've done both. I think both have a hard time finding time in some cases and neither is harder than the other. I find generalizations to be untrue in both situations, thats my point. Big hugs to the OP again!
Perhaps. I know I'm a SAHM of 3 kids and I pretty much single parent because Dh is a trucker and home about 2-3 times a month. After my oldest DD was severly injured in a childcare center I dont do put them in centers or with babysitters unless I'm there or know them VERY well. So this eliminates alot of things I can do. I get slack for not volunteering in the classroom or on fieldtrips, I cant, I have a child thats not in school yet and they dont want siblings in the class. The kids also can't be expected to sit through a PTA meeting for 2 hours and not get rowdy, I won't force them to do that. Between them they have alot of activities and meetings that I must get to, Dr appointments, speech therapy, teacher meetings, recitels or what not for school and up until recently OT and PT. (the joys of having a SN child, lol) I also run 2 businesses and go to school but these are both flexible since I do them from home. I do let the kids pick one non-school related activity a year to participate in, these are more flexible for us and we can pick what fits our schedule.
My point is if you are a SAHM to more than one child and dont do daycare, dont have family in the area and are single parenting at any length its pretty hard to get to activities if they dont want younger kids in tow. Personally I'd love to just bring them but some are very strict. In fact my DS's graduation from headstart they said no sibblings were allowed, period. That means I wouldn't be able to go. DS would freak out if he was the only child without a parent there and it would be too emotional for him, so I kept him home that day and we did special activities as a 3-some instead.
So yeah, some SAHMs *may* have more time but I don't think its a general rule and I refuse to make that kind of generalization. BTW I used to be a work out of home mom as well before Dh went long haul, I'd say my free time was even, lol.