Overdue and depressed

[kindmomma]

I feel like I am going to be pregnant forever. I am overdue with my third by a week and nothing seems to be helping, so excuse me while I vent. Ever since I have been 37 weeks my midwives have been telling me "We won't see you next week" Well........they do! Now let me give a little history! This will be my second VBAC and the further I go the more scared I get about something going wrong! I am trying to stay focused but it is so hard when the days keep coming and going. In the past 2 weeks I have had 3 nights of what I thought was early labor. But then Poof! It stops. I have tried it all sex, walking, burning lavender on the stove for days, my doula is at my house nearly everyday rubbing me and working on my pressure points, I have rolled at least a million miles on my birth ball. Walking is hard, the babies head is so low that he is pinching a nerve in my hip so at night I can hardly make it to bed without this searing pain and the feeling I am going to fall as my leg gives out on me. My family and friends are so tired of hearing me complain and I feel like the worlds biggest you know what. I meditate as much as possible and try visualization to keep myself from falling apart. Every night I go to bed thinking "this could be it" so I run around trying to get everything ready in case we have to dash out the door. It is all too much to keep doing. My friends tell me to calm down and he will come, which I know, I just need to vent to people who understand. Some reassuring words would be nice instead of the looming "have you had that baby yet" phone calls. Any advise would be greatly appreciated! Am I crazy? Or just too pregnant!:

[Stacymom]

Oh, I'm so sorry!

I went two weeks over with dd and then was induced. I think those were the two longest weeks of my life! I remember waking up every morning so incredibly disappointed that I hadn't gone into labor that night. Ugh. It's so hard waiting. My only advice- try to do things just for yourself. Go get a massage, or go shopping, see a movie, have lunch with a friend, etc... Do anything to get your mind off the fact that you're not pregnant yet. (As if that's possible! : ) Sleep lots- take a bunch of naps during the day to make up for the sleep you're missing at night. Good luck- we look forward to hearing your birth story!

Oh, and unplug the phone, or screen calls if you have caller ID. AT 42 weeks, I threw the phone across the room after what felt like my 1000th "Have you had that baby yet" call.

[traixa2]

With #3, I had contractions all night two weeks before my due date, went to my MD the next am to have her tell me I was dilated to 4, and "I'll see you later today" (ostensibly to have the baby). Needless to say, Russ wasn't born until 3 DAYS after his due date. That was the LONGEST 2+ weeks EVER!
I understand your frustration....and no, you aren't crazy. I agree with Stacymom, unplug your phone.

[gret the great]

My DS was born at 42 weeks...I feel your pain! The best thing that we did was turn the ringer off on the phone & let the machine get it. We had an outgoing message, "please leave a message for blah blah blah. Our baby is not here yet, but we will keep you posted. " We got a lot of hangups, which I was fine with. My mom thought the outgoing message was a bit rude, but I felt it was much more polite than the people who'd call- out of the blue to say, Oh my god I can't believe you are still pregnant!I am now 39 weeks and so hoping I don't go way past my edd...

Hope it happens soon for you!!!

[sassytapped]

I went over my edd too. The last 2 weeks were the longest most uncomfortable of my life. I had cramping every night too and would think this is it, but then nothing. I don't know if it was what finally helped or if it was just time, but I took some Evening primrose oil and 5 hours later was holding my beautiful 10 lb babe in my arms. Good luck.

[FreeRangeMama]

I went 2 weeks overdue and I agree that the last 2 weeks were horrible. I second the advice to go get a massage (or maybe a pedicure or facial-something just for you). I enjoyed lots of hot baths and dh and I did a ton of walking. I also found caller ID to be a lifesaver. I didn't answer the phone at all for 2 weeks.
Good luck!
Laurie

[kindmomma]

You guys are too sweet. It is so nice to have some people who can relate. I have been in cleaning mode today which any way you look at it is good! No baby yet........but we all know it is something that has GOT to happen. It is not like he has taken up residence in there!
My next appointment is Thursday, I am hoping my midwives do not start talking of inducing. That is not something I wish to have on my plate. Seeing that I am a VBAC. I have heard inductions are even more dangerous on VBAC mommas, does anyone know if this is right?
I am enjoying the girls today. It is a beautiful day and the sun is out and after I get done with my laundry we are going on a long long walk at the park! Here's to baby having and positive thoughts!

[gret the great]

VBAC inductions

Yes, I have read and heard that inductions or any other interventions are risky with vbacs. I am waiting to go into labor soon too with a VBAC and am praying fir no interventions as well. Enjoy the sunshine!!!

You're baby WILL come.