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on the crazy getting into everything,wrecking everything thing.. i just dont let iy happen. elwynn knows that if he makes a mess he cleans it up.. maybe thats too much for a 3 year old but for my sanity its got to be that way. i guess i run a tight ship (never thought i would) but my mental health is pretty dependant on having a calm, clean home environment. i still usew GD to keep it that way but im not illing to let the kids walk all over me..
You have to have boundries for the kids. Don't let them get into the stuff that you don't want them to get into. My kids have never gotten into the cupboards, but that could be cause I always leave the chairs and such by the table, so they can't climb up there.

I hate to say it now, but I just had a glorious day, child-free:. My mom watched the kids for me, and I went to town, did some shopping, pretended I didn't have kids(so much fun, flirting, and talking with casheirs)... just what I needed. now for the weekend, with just me n' the kids.... hmmmm..... have to think of a new activity to do... so we don't go cray-zzzee. I've really noticed recently, that if the kids are bored, thats when I have to worry about things being damaged. I'm going to try to purposely sit down with them often and do some "learning" together. I should start somewhere, hey? doing homeschool doesn't just start when H is 5.

it will pass, everything does.
post #162 of 168
I've been sending my almost 4 year old to my mother's house 2-3 afternoons per week ever since she moved here in August. What a relief to only have two children in the house for a little while! Do all 4 year olds talk your ear off all day?!?!
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Rynna, sorry you are having a rough time mama...hugs. YOu should try calling WIC and maybe they would get you another check, it couldn't hurt to try, you never know.

Jillmamma, Razi goes to preschool 3 days a week for a little over 4 hours each. It's right around the range of price you wrote about. It's comparable to the Montessori he went to last spring...seems like the going rate. It's been going well this time. 3 weeks now and he absolutely loves it. He hated the montessori I had him in before.
post #165 of 168
Rynna-
Krista- Ds babble's but still doesn't have much in the way of real conversations. I long for that day though.

Ds has become soooo sensitive. He cries at every little thing. If music sounds sad, he cries. If someone hurts themselves, he cries. If someone looks sad, he cries. He cries at the drop of a hat. No whiny cry...Just sad.
Anyone else's little one going through this?
post #166 of 168
Bean never did that, but BizzyBug did for aaages... of course, that was after several months of therapy to explain that when other people were crying, that meant that they were sad, and so on and so forth. It's fantastic, though, today she's very empathic and sensitive.

I'm feeling a bit better today. I'm thinking about the present and the future, and the scary "let's run away from home" feeling has passed. I'm still feeling pretty selfish, but I feel once again that Mike and the kids don't spend their days exclusively working to piss me off and make me feel unappreciated. I'm glad that I could post that on this thread without someone saying "Call a shrink right now, before you ruin your kids for life!!" You ladies rock.

I bought myself a pack of cloves, even though I really don't have cash to spare, because... well, because I don't have a good source for pot. It's better (and cheaper) than pot or a beer anyway, and I don't really feel like I'm wasting money if I have this pack around for a year and a half (the last pack I brought actually lasted about two years ). I'm not really a smoker, not even cloves, but it was nice to do something purely selfish. Of course it's hard to wrap my head around that when my girls are wheezing... I mean, I don't smoke around them (I can't imagine what Bean would say!! ) at all, but the idea that I'm doing something negative to my body when I'm working so hard to try to heal my girls is... well, it messees with me a bit.

I'm going on a serious elimination diet after Yom Kippur; nothing but brown rice for a week, and then slowly adding things back into my diet. It's going to be insane, so today I'm going to gorge myself. It's not a good time for it, because I won't have any food stamps until tomorrow (of course), and tomorrow I'll be fasting, but maybe I'll dig through the change and get myself a special treat. I dunno. I'm a bit messed up, I guess.

We had a major discussion about religion with Mike's dad and sister yesterday, the upshot being that they actively refuse to not preach their religion to the kids. So we won't be down there every weekend. It's a bummer, but if that's the way it's got to be, that's the way it's got to be. Mike's dad claimed that he wasn't being sneaky at all, that he had straight out told one or both of us that he was going to talk about Jesus with the kids. I said, "If you don't feel a need to sneak around behind my back, why is my kid coming home saying things that I know he learned from you? Why is it that you take them downstairs to do this, instead of bringing it up right in front of me? I call that 'sneaky,' and it's more than offensive; it's morally reprehensible." He just shook his head and claimed that I was "going against my own scriptures," because he dug up a verse saying that "you shall teach your children and your children's children." Nothing in that verse (or anywhere) says that grandparents should take precedence over parents when it comes to teaching children.

He said that they had to preach to kids because they believe that children are born sinful and that as they get older, their hearts become more firmly cemented in their sinful natures and that's why it's harder for them to accept salvation. What I heard was "My religion makes so little sense, I don't expect anyone over the age of 12 to be able to accept it," only with a sad, sentimental rationale. Okay, enough about that. The point: We're not going to be spending tons of time down there anymore. No breaks for me. We have to do what we have to do, though. That's that.
post #167 of 168
Rynna- pig out girl! I bought some Halloween candy early and me and the kids have been sneaking Tootsie Rolls!!! Yum.

I didn't want to hi-jack Rynna's thread about forgiveness (check her sig) like everyone else did, so I am asking for it here. If I have ever said (or say) anything that offends anyone in this thread, I apologize.

I have my nephew all week while my parents are in Mexico. Hopefully it won't be too crazy here!!! We get to see Pink Floyd on Tuesday- we're taking Zach and Julianna and they are SO excited!

I think I am having a girl. I like Ivy, DH likes Isabella. Looks like poor Zachary may be the only boy after all...
post #168 of 168
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started a new thread for October!

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...30#post6180930

come one, come all, and lets have a party!
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