Yikes, I'd forgotten how chatty you guys are!
Thanks for all your reassurances. I'm not worried about my dc's development per se, just that I'm not giving them all they need to reach their best, yk? With my 1st not talking til late, I was fine to give her some space, we're all individuals. But now my 2nd isn't using words either and I'm facing worries that maybe I'm not a verbal enough role model. I sure can't keep up with you guys!
Casina, I had a raging sinus infection this summer when I was doing too much. I spent a day lying on the couch thinking how it would be okay to die, I've given my kids a good start and I'm not much cut out to be a soccor mom anyway. Sometimes being a mom is just TOO HARD. Also, congrats on giving up smoking and good luck. I lived a "chemical" life years before my kids, and there are still some moments when I feel like, thank *** I don't know a dealer anymore or I'd be on their doorstep.
Interesting conundrum, not wanting to go to an OMD because of your closely linked ethnicity... I had never looked at it that way. I used to have an Anglo OMD who just about deified Asian OMDs... I always thought that was funny. I don't think of OMD (even though I call it Oriental) as being limited to one group. Just a respectful nod to the land where it sprang to consciousness. Maybe I would feel different if I decided to take Irish dancing lessons (my ethnicity) from an Indian/Russian/African?
mamafern, sorry about your ds's funk. With dd I always need to hit rock bottom before coming up for air. As in, reaching the point of whining and grumping right back at her before I snap to- whoa, not cool. Then I just hole up for a day of cuddling and routine breaking. A cycle I'm trying to break. I'm getting better at snapping inside instead of at her.
Mona, sorry about the sleep issues! I can't imagine being up that much with my 3yo, I would be the walking dead trying to get her back to sleep. With my 1yo I can swing it, but with her I just put a boob in her mouth. When I was a child I went through a phase with my folks of not wanting to say I love you. They pushed it and it got worse and I think it was years before I said it to them again. As such I'm very sensitive to it with my kids. I just don't say it much in general, because the overuse of it makes me uncomfortable. I say it when I'm feeling it, whether the timing is appropriate or not-- it can have a funny impact
saritasmile, what school is this? How did Montessori not work out? dd is in Montessori and I am quickly learning that "Montessori" can mean several different things... she and I are on opposite pendulum swings about it
It would be so nice if dd would put herself to bed. I'm just not good at bedtime, never have been, because it's my worst time of day when I want to be selfish and pull inward to reserve my strength. And now that she's in school and needs a routine bedtime/ wake up, oy! I've had such laziness about pushing her out of the baby mold. She only goes to the bathroom by herself now because we told her she couldn't go to school until she learned to go by herself. It was very weird for her. She knew how to go by herself, but having been ec'd since birth I had always gone with her, and likewise she had always gone with me (I'm sure you know how that is
), so it was just a shift for her. A good shift, a bad shift? I have to stop torturing myself about it, drag my butt away from this computer and put her to bed!