Originally Posted by Lkg4dmcrc
The thought of I'd rather have it be me and leave my children motherless rather than the unborn baby die is odd to me. I guess that is what makes us all different. My dad's mom died when he was little and he grew up with some terrible issues because of it- all sadly passed on to his children. I cannot imagine leaving any living children motherless. For me personally, it has nothing to do with self-preservation. It is more about not leaving my living children to grow up without a mother!
I guess I just look at this baby growing inside me and think of her as my child, just as real as the ones I already have already brought into this world.
At what point would you say you'd be willing to sacrifice your own life, and thus your other children having a mother, for your new baby? I am assuming, of course, that if someone came in and made you choose between YOU dying and one of your existing children dying, you'd choose to die yourself? Or would you choose to allow your existing child to die, thus leaving the rest of your children with a mother?
And really, if your unborn child were dying inside of your body, would you refuse an emergency c-section to save that baby's life? Because an emergency section certainly carries greater risks (according to every other study out there at least) for mom than a scheduled one. Would you insist on continuing to deliver vaginally to avoid the risks of section for yourself, or would you be willing to take on those risks in the face of imminent danger of death or harm to your unborn baby?
I'm thinking the hesitation to assume the increased maternal risk of death with ERCS comes more from the fact that baby is not in imminent danger at the time of ERCS, whereas during emergency c-section, consenting at that point is because the unborn child IS at immediate risk. Does that make sense?
I guess for me, I personally couldn't live with myself if I knew that I chose myself over my child, and that includes children growing inside me. The only time I could see choosing my own life over that of my child would be if the unborn child in question wasn't viable to begin with, at which point it's not really a choice between my life and my child's life, as my child wouldn't live regardless of my choice.
Anyhow, I'm truly fascinated to read how others come to make their own decisions.