Not proud to be anti-circ... - Page 2

[Telle Bear]

Originally Posted by coloradoalice

I doubt she feels worse than the baby will as he is strapped to a board and has part of his body ripped and cut off.

I hate to sound harsh, but seriously especially online, you don't know if you will ever encounter that person again and you gotta get the information out there. It may be overwhelming, but you can't really sit there and wait to see if anyone else puts information up. So I guess sometimes it can be an avalanche of information. But I'd rather that than no one say anything at all!

I could NOT disagree anymore....We are basically BEATING these people away from us...

[laketahoemama]

For me personally, I WISH I had someone tell me the truth about circumcision. Even if she wasn't asking about weather or not to do it, maybe she didn't know all about it yet.

[kldliam]

Perhaps your title should have read,"feeling unhappy about the conduct of some anti-circ people"

I would never suggest that I was not proud to be anti-circ. Ever. There is a BIG difference between being unhappy about a few people's conduct within our circles and feeling ashamed of a whole human right's movement. Your post conveys the latter.

There's all different types of Intactivists...just because you don't agree with different styles doesn't mean that you should not be proud to be fighting to end forced infant genital cutting.

[MommytoB]

I saw the post too and believe me 'some people don't want to have lots of 'reading material ' smack dab into their face especially like my mom oh I had printed off intact care because she was the only one who retracted my son when i noticed at when he was 9 n half wks old.

She's the type of 'denying if it's wrong thing and I show her wrong then she will go why you showing me I didn't do that. Never read the information.

Same as when it comes to 'nutrition' she was worried that my son wasn't eating alot saying it's proably my nursing doing that to him. Anyways, I got together with a dietican she brough me at least 6 pages of the nurtition guide for a toddler - I showed my mom she didn't even look at them & is still whining about how my son 'barely eats" & if she read the pages she would know it's totally normal especially for this age.

I do agree that people would be mighty harsh I also seen you newly on CM board too.

I agree with the honey & vinegar statement but sometimes it can be a very sticky situation is because you want to be 'honest' but not too forceful.

I saw on the other site how one 'intactivist ' was getting attacked by some pro-circers believing a foreskin caused a kidney infection .

You could likely want to really at least yell at that statement forcefully as stating proably want to use the word 'dumb', stupid ,idiotic etc but instead you could assume the kid was proably retracted or had an urinary issues and maybe ask them 'after researching kidney infections can you show me where the 'foreskin state the cause of etc etc because I looked and I couldn't find any etc.

[Telle Bear]

Originally Posted by Pandora114

And FYI: It's against the UA to talk about what goes on on other boards...especially going so far as to name it..

*no I'm not a granola ambassador, I've just had threads deleted and mods asking me not to do it again for doing the same thing..*

Sorry I didn't know that....I was not intentionally breaking the rules....(althought sometimes breaking the rules is fun)

[Telle Bear]

Well, I find it very interested that some of you are upset with my wording of this thread. I hate to say this, but it proves my whole point !!

Things can be said without offending or upsetting people!!

[pdx.mothernurture]

For what it's worth, I wasn't really "offended", I just disagree with not being proud to be an intactivist just because I don't agree with the style/tactics of some. Honestly, when I first learned about circumcision, I was VERY harsh on messageboards. I was outraged. I was venting. I was telling it like it was! All of that was fine and nice, but I was alienating the very parents who I wanted to reach. I've come a long way in my own personal evolution, and I accept that we all learn and grow at different rates and have different personalities that come through in our posts. So, I definately see your point even though I disagree with not being proud to be an intactivist. I do understand feeling embarassed on occasion because of how someone on your side of the fence is acting though.

Jen

[kldliam]

Telle Bear: Well, I find it very interested that some of you are upset with my wording of this thread. I hate to say this, but it proves my whole point !!

What? Are you saying that you delibertly tried to post in an offensive way? Or was that accidental? What did you proove exactly? That you as an Intactivist, know how to post in an inflamatory way too? That you know how to upset people? I am really confused.

Telle Bear: Things can be said without offending or upsetting people!!

Sure. Are you saying that you realize that you should have posted in a different way or that we should not be upset at the way you posted? Again, I am very confused and I am not sure what either prooves.

[darsmama]

It is very hard for me (meek and mild and non-confrontational) to hold back on message boards. I usually just Yeah that to previous posts.
I just don't want to offend someone and beat them away.
I am already known as militant to my family and friends.
IRL - I get so upset irl I start shaking and my voice falters because I am so AGAINST IT it upsets me to the core that someone would even think about doing it. Thats why printouts are the way to go for me
Unfortunetly, everyone has circ'ed that I know of

[PuppyFluffer]

It is against the User Agreement to discuss other internet discussions. I am closing this thread until I can review it.