This is what I don't understand.
Is the assumption that if the person staying at home isn't doing housework, they aren't doing anything all day?
|Originally posted by Ocean
but if one person is at home all day, I think that person should do the bulk of the housework.
Or that the sahp "plays" all day?
|Originally posted by glh
I don't know if anyone has said this but could you really just play with the kids all day and not do housework?
Or that SAHMs don't work long hours?
|Originally posted by natmother
My husband works long hours so I am respectful to that.
My day/week looks very much like tara's. And, like tara, my dh and I have decided that we are willing to put up with some clutter in order for both of our jobs (bringing home a paycheck and taking care of our ds) to be appreciated. So, he doesn't spend all or even much his time at home cleaning, he spends it with ds and with me. And I don't spend time when I am home doing major housework; I spend it taking care of ds. We allot a few minutes each night and a couple of hours on the weekends to get those chores done which we think are critical. And the rest just isn't important enough right now.
And like many of us "non housework" mamas have admitted, most moms who think they don't do any housework actually ARE doing light housework during the day, so IN ADDITION to the more important work of taking care of child(ren), most moms are doing housework. I don't think there is a SAHM on this earth who would describe her job as staying home and playing all day.
And I think this bears repeating, b/c it is so often forgotten:
|Originally posted by jbcjmom
However, as a sahm, I am "on duty" 24 hours a day.
One thing that has been bothering me throughout this thread is the implication that mothering is not ENOUGH work, and that SAHMs need to make up for the fact that they are "just" mothers or "only" mothers and therefore need to do MORE than mothering. And IMHO, I don't think we do. I think that mothering (and all the nursing, feeding, diaper changing, putting to sleep, talking to, cleaning up after, and yes, even PLAYING) is such a huge job in and of itself-- and, unlike my dh's job, MY JOB NEVER ENDS.