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post #1 of 16
9/4/06 at 7:36pm
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I visit my mom weekly and we usually hang out outside since its been nice and usually the nieghbor comes over w/ her kids and visits too, Her son is 12 and daughter is 14. While nursing my 4 mo old dd outside today my mother told me I need to cover up more because its not appropriarte for a 12 boy to see. WAS FLAMING MAD i SAID i WILL NOT COVER UP MY CHILDS HEAD if they have a problem with it then they can just leave or look away THATS WHAT BREASTS ARE FOR!!! she said i know but still he shouldnt see that,I said yes he should! He should see a woman use her breasts for what they are made for THEY ARE MADE TO FEED BABIES NOT TO SELL CARS! iim just so mad by her comment DDs head block all of my Breast anyway he may only see nipples and latch and unlatch. It made me so mad that I wanted to take off my shirth a BF topless in her front yard (dont think I wouldnt either!!) I'm going to ask my moms nieghbor if she said something next week or if it was my mom. But either way I am not going to cover up her head and let ger sweat if they dont like it LEAVE ot do not look. FYI my mo breastfeed us and my mom nieghbor tried to BF but said she didnt make enough milk.


Sorry just had to vent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
post #2 of 16
9/4/06 at 7:56pm
I totally agree with you on this one, both the young boy and girl need to see more positive breastfeeding role models like you. My 11 yr old niece actually didn't know that breasts make milk. : Until me, she'd never seen a woman bf a baby, and she has 4 younger siblings.
Good for you for standing your ground!
post #3 of 16
9/4/06 at 8:08pm
Good for you for standing up for yourself! My mother is like that too-she's very Christian and is very much pro-bfing but thinks that we should all just cover up like crazy. I just kinda did my own thing but I did at least go use the very comfortable "mother's" room during church-because it was very quiet and the couches were so comfortable. We also had intercom so we could hear what was going on. I did it more for myself so that I could relax on the plush couch instead of those hard chairs out there! My mom probably thought she got to me...
post #4 of 16
9/4/06 at 8:10pm
Teen boys not only need to see breastfeeding, they need to be taught that breastfeeding can make women have larger breasts.
post #5 of 16
9/4/06 at 8:53pm
Geeze, my mom is the complete opposite! Every time I would be in a situation where I felt more comfortable covering (there were a few, especially in the early months!) she would ask why I covered up, then launch into a long speech about how I shouldn't have to cover up, etc...
I agree, though, that seeing a boob is not going to cause damage to a 12 yo! Its a natural thing, and hopefully he's seen it before. If not, he needs to know what they're really for, right?
post #6 of 16
9/4/06 at 9:31pm
Ugh... my mom did a similar thing when I was at a family gathering after the passing of one of my uncles. She said something to the effect of "Make sure you are doing that in private." I totally blew up I was like "What do you mean? Have you see my boobs at all? I am feeding the baby for pity's sake." She just walked away. It made me feel so crappy.
post #7 of 16
9/4/06 at 9:39pm

Awesome

That's a great story, I'm so glad more and more people are realizing just how much damage it does to our society, perhaps especially to us men, to not see the body the way it's supposed to be seen. Hopefully you planted some seeds of thought in that neighbor, and she'll think about the beauty of what you did. Bravo. And vent any time!
post #8 of 16
9/4/06 at 9:44pm
there was a time my mom told me to cover up infront of my dad!!!! she said it was inappropriate for him to see me that way.

blsilva--your mom sounds cool. i want to be a cool mom too!!!
post #9 of 16
9/4/06 at 9:52pm
Oh, you guys make me SO look forward to bf in front of my stepmom.... she's one of those people who'd buy any invention that would help her spend less time with her baby (she had an elective c-section, general anesthesia, because she could).
post #10 of 16
9/4/06 at 10:16pm
way to stand your ground.

my family was visiting at a friend's cottage this summer for several days. besides my friend and her dh were, their 17y-o dd and 14y-o ds, and the17 y-o's boyfriend....did i cover up? not on your life! nobody seemed to be concerned. i did ask my friend if she was okay with my nursing around the 'kids' she said no problem

i am pretty confident i am the only example they have seen for the REAL purpose of breasts!
post #11 of 16
9/5/06 at 10:09am
Invite your mom over for dinner. Make something real nice and right when she starts enjoying it, throw a blanket over her head and see how she reacts. Then tell her your baby doesnt like it any more than she does. Hopefully she'll get the point. :
post #12 of 16
9/5/06 at 11:55am
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Mama Poot
Invite your mom over for dinner. Make something real nice and right when she starts enjoying it, throw a blanket over her head and see how she reacts. Then tell her your baby doesnt like it any more than she does. Hopefully she'll get the point. :
THATS HILLARIOUS
post #13 of 16
9/5/06 at 12:36pm
My mom half joked that she wouldn't be seen with me if I bf in public : Thanks, Mom! Way to be supportive.

I don't blame you for being miffed, and I totally agree that adolescent boys need to see normal images of breasts being used for their intended purpose. It will teach them to respect women.
post #14 of 16
9/5/06 at 1:16pm
nak

my mom is horrified when i nurse in public - tells me that people don't want to see it. this was when my dd was 5mo...now i am nursing a 17mo while pregnant...the horrors! good thing she lives across the coutry - did i mentions shes a yoga teacher and i thought she was kidding when she was so offended...whatever. to the op - good for you for standing your ground!
post #15 of 16
9/5/06 at 5:25pm
my mom bf in public
post #16 of 16
9/5/06 at 7:26pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by bodybookresearcher
That's a great story, I'm so glad more and more people are realizing just how much damage it does to our society, perhaps especially to us men, to not see the body the way it's supposed to be seen. Hopefully you planted some seeds of thought in that neighbor, and she'll think about the beauty of what you did. Bravo. And vent any time!
sounds like you have unwarped views. pretty refreshing. to mdc, by the way.
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