Originally Posted by kathirynne
I find all the comments (by step mothers, especially) regarding how expensive child support and visitation, et cetera are to be very interesting for a couple of reasons.
1. Did the step-mums not realize that their DPs had children for whom they were (and will continue to be until the age of maturity) responsible for?
2. The father is 50% responsible for the creation of the children, shouldn't he be 50% responsible for supporting them?
3. The parent who retains custody of the children is on call 24/7/365. Is it really too much to ask that the non-custodial parent cough up a reasonable amount of child support?
2) I disagree that either parent is 50% responsible for supporting. In fact that is not how child support is calculated. CS is most often calculated by taking mom's gross salary and dad's gross salary and using that to decide what the child's "income" is and then backing out what percentage of that income comes from mom and dad and then applying that percentage to the costs. In our case the mom is a sahm which I am totally supportive of but that means that in the calculation my dh is responsible for more than 80% of the child's expenses. Dh also has kids with me and I too am a sahm....so wow. he has quite a burden doesn't he? Thankfully he is up for it! But cs laws are really not about 50% support. If they were they would use gov. figures on what it costs to raise a child and each person would pay half that cost- no matter what their income.
3)I think that paying cs is reasonable and I have no issue with paying it (though I may have issues with the way our legal system figures cs but that isn niether here or there). But I think that the complaint from the custodial parent about having more time-hey we would take more time if they would give it so what do you want? Just like the cs equation it isn't fair. CP gets more time (and that is worth more than money) so we both have a sucky deal. Divorce sucks. PERIOD.