Ok, my youngest is 3 now, but this still gets under my skin every time I think about it. Hopefully I'll get over it someday, but I can't believe how insensitive my mother and SD can be sometimes.
When my oldest was born, we had him circ'd. It's a long story, but I knew in my heart of hearts the second they took him from me in the hospital that I was making a big mistake, and my fears were confirmed when he was brought back to me curled in a tiny ball and dried tears on his cheeks. It was confirmed again during the hellish healing period, and confirmed yet again when he was 2 and his babysitter told me upon picking him up that "he was stuck to himself and I pulled it loose" and when I inspected his penis found it angry red and oozing all over again. I swore repeatedly that I would never, ever circumcise another son of mine.
Noah was born. My DH and I had to repeatedly reassure the hospital staff that no, we didn't want a circumcision, and yes, we knew what we were doing. Silly me, I forgot to mention to my mother that we weren't doing it. We had left her out of our decision making process because, well, it really wasn't any of her business.
When Noah was a week old, we were at my mom's house and she changed him for me. Kept her mouth shut until dinner, when we were all seated at the table. She says, why didn't you circ Noah? I said, I didn't think it was necessary. See, my mom and I have a friendly relationship, but she is so overbearing sometimes that I clip my answers when she asks me controversial questions just to avoid getting extremely pissed off.
She says, what, your insurance didn't cover it? (Like that's the only reason I didn't have it done) I said, no, Blue Cross still covers circ. I just didn't think it was a good idea for my son (getting a lil pissed now) she says.....I'LL PAY FOR IT IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT.
Ok. Now I was mad. And to top it off, my SD (who is Jewish) says........
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I CAN'T BELIEVE YOUR SON HAS A DOG DICK.
He was a week old. I packed up both of my sons and left that house so fast, even my DH was surprised. I didn't speak to her for a couple of weeks, and when I did, I told her the state of my baby's penis is not an appropriate topic for dinnertime discussion, and that I was HIGHLY offended that my SD said what he did. I let it be known that we were never to discuss this again, because I am incapable of separating my emotions with my mom, and especially because they are incapable of intelligent debate and instead resort to blatant attacks on my intelligence and my beautiful son's body.
We haven't discussed it since, but she never changed another diaper.
When my oldest was born, we had him circ'd. It's a long story, but I knew in my heart of hearts the second they took him from me in the hospital that I was making a big mistake, and my fears were confirmed when he was brought back to me curled in a tiny ball and dried tears on his cheeks. It was confirmed again during the hellish healing period, and confirmed yet again when he was 2 and his babysitter told me upon picking him up that "he was stuck to himself and I pulled it loose" and when I inspected his penis found it angry red and oozing all over again. I swore repeatedly that I would never, ever circumcise another son of mine.
Noah was born. My DH and I had to repeatedly reassure the hospital staff that no, we didn't want a circumcision, and yes, we knew what we were doing. Silly me, I forgot to mention to my mother that we weren't doing it. We had left her out of our decision making process because, well, it really wasn't any of her business.
When Noah was a week old, we were at my mom's house and she changed him for me. Kept her mouth shut until dinner, when we were all seated at the table. She says, why didn't you circ Noah? I said, I didn't think it was necessary. See, my mom and I have a friendly relationship, but she is so overbearing sometimes that I clip my answers when she asks me controversial questions just to avoid getting extremely pissed off.
She says, what, your insurance didn't cover it? (Like that's the only reason I didn't have it done) I said, no, Blue Cross still covers circ. I just didn't think it was a good idea for my son (getting a lil pissed now) she says.....I'LL PAY FOR IT IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD IT.
Ok. Now I was mad. And to top it off, my SD (who is Jewish) says........
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
I CAN'T BELIEVE YOUR SON HAS A DOG DICK.
He was a week old. I packed up both of my sons and left that house so fast, even my DH was surprised. I didn't speak to her for a couple of weeks, and when I did, I told her the state of my baby's penis is not an appropriate topic for dinnertime discussion, and that I was HIGHLY offended that my SD said what he did. I let it be known that we were never to discuss this again, because I am incapable of separating my emotions with my mom, and especially because they are incapable of intelligent debate and instead resort to blatant attacks on my intelligence and my beautiful son's body.
We haven't discussed it since, but she never changed another diaper.
Good for you for protecting you son from both the surgery and the ridicule, like a momma should! 
: It never fails to amaze me the vile stuff that can come out of peoples mouths :Puke
That takes guts. 
: I think you handled it perfectly! My MIL saw my son naked one day and made some comment about how he was running around showing off his "little uncircumsized thing".....what is REALLY interesting is that she actually didn't have my dh circ'd. She lost a daughter nine months before he was born, and she said that she was so out of it that having him circ'd just slipped her mind. His brother is circ'd. Boy, am I glad that it slipped her mind! 
