Hi- I have not posted here much, but come over on occassion... this post really hit home for me, so I thought that I would post!
I have two healthy beautiful children which I adore. I would like to have one more child - it's almost as though I feel in my heart that I am meant to have one more child before I stop, I don't know why I feel this way, but I do!!
This is a burning and yearning feeling that gets worse at times and sometimes I can ignore it! Right now it's in full force and it's all that I can think about!!! I put off having the conversation with my dh for a long time after my son was born and finally had the conversation with dh a few months back about how I really wanted to have another one. He has very valid points as to why we should not have any more kids, but it doesn't make it better!! He says we already have two healthy kids who are getting older (13& 6) and we should just enjoy them. Plus, financially children are expensive and he wants to be able to give them everything they need/want. Okay, our kids are extremely spoiled and they do not need everything that they have!!! I am sure we would be fine financially, would just need to modify our spending a little more cautiously!!! So yes, he has valid points, but it just doesn't make me feel any better.
He has talked about getting the big "V", but everytime he talks about it, I end up in tears and he doesn't do it. We have always used withdrawal and it has NEVER failed us in the 14 years that we have used it. I would never intentionally get pregnant without his support, but I will say I often wish the WD method would fail for us!! We use this method during my fertile times as well. Oh, another important thing... it only took us "once" to conceive both of our children so I know I am very fertile.
What I don't understand is that I hear so many times how WD is referred to as pull and pray method and that so many people have unexpected pregnancies from this method... I really think it's that people are not using it correctly - otherwise I would think I would be one of those statistics!!
Also, on the post about scooping it up and putting it in there- I can't say the thought hasn't crossed my mind, it has... but I have never done that.
I am just so sad to think that there will be no more babies in my life and that I will never be pregnant again!!! I do dread being sick again, but oh the joy and miracle of producing and carrying a new life and then the children after that are so rewarding!! I don't know how to get passed this and just try to forget about trying for another... I know when I am ovulating each month (in fact am in my fertile phase right now) and I just wish that there was something I could do about it.
I have thought about bringing it up again to DH, but I know he would get upset and say the same thing again and I just can't bare it!!! I guess all that I can do is hope that god has a plan in mind for me and if he wants me to have anymore children he will help make it happen.
I have two healthy beautiful children which I adore. I would like to have one more child - it's almost as though I feel in my heart that I am meant to have one more child before I stop, I don't know why I feel this way, but I do!!
This is a burning and yearning feeling that gets worse at times and sometimes I can ignore it! Right now it's in full force and it's all that I can think about!!! I put off having the conversation with my dh for a long time after my son was born and finally had the conversation with dh a few months back about how I really wanted to have another one. He has very valid points as to why we should not have any more kids, but it doesn't make it better!! He says we already have two healthy kids who are getting older (13& 6) and we should just enjoy them. Plus, financially children are expensive and he wants to be able to give them everything they need/want. Okay, our kids are extremely spoiled and they do not need everything that they have!!! I am sure we would be fine financially, would just need to modify our spending a little more cautiously!!! So yes, he has valid points, but it just doesn't make me feel any better.
He has talked about getting the big "V", but everytime he talks about it, I end up in tears and he doesn't do it. We have always used withdrawal and it has NEVER failed us in the 14 years that we have used it. I would never intentionally get pregnant without his support, but I will say I often wish the WD method would fail for us!! We use this method during my fertile times as well. Oh, another important thing... it only took us "once" to conceive both of our children so I know I am very fertile.
What I don't understand is that I hear so many times how WD is referred to as pull and pray method and that so many people have unexpected pregnancies from this method... I really think it's that people are not using it correctly - otherwise I would think I would be one of those statistics!!
Also, on the post about scooping it up and putting it in there- I can't say the thought hasn't crossed my mind, it has... but I have never done that.
I am just so sad to think that there will be no more babies in my life and that I will never be pregnant again!!! I do dread being sick again, but oh the joy and miracle of producing and carrying a new life and then the children after that are so rewarding!! I don't know how to get passed this and just try to forget about trying for another... I know when I am ovulating each month (in fact am in my fertile phase right now) and I just wish that there was something I could do about it.
I have thought about bringing it up again to DH, but I know he would get upset and say the same thing again and I just can't bare it!!! I guess all that I can do is hope that god has a plan in mind for me and if he wants me to have anymore children he will help make it happen.
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