Originally Posted by jul511riv
I understand how that may hurt those of us that DO use a harnass, because we don't want to be seen as abusive or disrespectful and DEFINATELY feel that we are NOT being hurtful and disrespectful to our children, and thus we have a knee jerk emotional response to the posters who disagree with us and begin to attack them. I get that. But truly, their feelings are JUST as vaild and they SHOULD have a place to present them on this thread.
I'm sorry, but this:
|They are also only good for keeping children from running away. They don't do anything that holding a child's hand or carrying them doesn't do. A child can still get into a lot of trouble with them in a store because they leave several feet of slack and if there is something very tantalizing to the child (like clothes on a hanger that need to be pulled off, a jar that looks cool, etc...) they will still have ample opportunity to do a lot of damage. The only thing they are good for is not letting the child run off but they couldn't do that in your arms or holding your hand and you are more aware of them when they are tugging your hand to get something then when they can reach something without tugging the leash.
assumes that any mom using a harness isn't paying attention to their child. Saying that kids have "ample opportunity to do a lot of damage" and "you are more aware of them when they're tugging your hand" are not about liking or disliking a harness. They're about making assumptions about how the harness is being used, and what the mother is or isn't doing while the child is in a harness. Making the assumption that I don't pay attention to my child just because I found a harness to be the best tool at one point is insulting and offensive.
When I had dd in the harness, I paid very
close attention to her. I had to make sure I stayed close, because otherwise she could fall from tugging against the harness...and I had to stay close, because I couldn't run after her without injuring myself.
People are entitled to dislike harnesses. That doesn't mean they're entitled to make assumptions about why people are using them.
I also won't call them leashes. I associate leashes with pets, and dd isn't a pet. If others can use that term without that association, more power to them.