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post #21 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
Since my oldest was about 18mo. old and he'll be 6 in Dec.

2. How old are you? 26

3. How old is your oldest child? 5

4. How old is your youngest child? 2

5. How much time do you spend with your children each week? All of it.

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children? DS1 goes to Kindergarten for 3hrs. each day M-F.

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly? I like to go to playgroups/have playdates, and I enjoy scrapbooking whenever I can.

8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
Being able to see my children grow, spending time with them, not having to put them in or pay for daycare.

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
Not getting any breaks, constant messy house, not having very much money.

10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
At least until my last child is in school full-time (first grade). I want to have more children, and we are also considering homeschooling if school doesn't work out for any of our dcs.

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
I want to finish college, but I was going to get my teaching degree and I don't think I want to do that anymore. I would like to work part-time at some point I think...
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post #22 of 147
*I've been a SAHM since dd was born, 17 months.
*I am 25 years old.
*Only one child, dd, 17 months.
*I spend all my time with her, I get one 30 minute break a day when dh gives her a bath, so thats....23.5 x 7=164.5 hours
*30 minutes per day, so thats 30 x 7=about 3 hours a week
*I enjoy MDC, reading, crocheting, and napping
*Hands down what I love about being a SAHM is not missing anything with dd. I can not imagine not being with her everyday, letting someone else enjoy all her milestones, her smiles, her learning.
*My biggest frustration is that I am not only a mom, but a cook, maid, errand runner, seamstress, and babysitter for two babies (4 months) besides dd. I feel like dh should help me more than he does.
*I plan to homeschool, so I'll be home for quite a while!
*I have a dream to open a baby boutique, but with an AP mentality. Selling CD's, organic clothing, breastfeeding things, natural toys, ect.
post #23 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
A little under 5 years.

2. How old are you?
32

3. How old is your oldest child?
4.5 yrs

4. How old is your youngest child?
My twins are 3.

5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?
In their presence? Virtually 24/7. However, most of the time we're working/playing parallel to each other. I try to get at least an hour of individual one on one time with each kid per day.

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?
I plan it around naps and bedtime. So in their perception it's probably a couple of hours. In reality it's probably close to 5-8ish hours per week.

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?
I am a homebody. I like reading. I joined a discussion circle through my church, which is a lot of fun and meets once per month. I also attend a mom's group meeting every other week. I tried to do the playgroup thing, but it just seemed to drain me (I'm not very extroverted), so I finally stopped beating myself up over not wanting to do that, and decided just to let things go in that regard. (I liked all the people I met just fine, issue wasn't with them--it was totally with me).

8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
I like being able to touch or talk to my kids whenever I feel like it, and to be part of their daily rhythm of life, if that makes sense. It's nice.

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
My biggest challenge is...myself, really. I have to struggle not to beat myself up if I'm not June Cleaver and Martha Stewart all at once. Since I don't get a break from parenting, I also have to remind myself (somtimes hourly) that it's understandable and okay if I don't have quite the same patience as a parent as I did as a childcare provider.

10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
I plan on being a homemaker pretty much for the rest of my life, barring something happening that makes it that I can't.

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
As the kids go off to school, I'd like to do more homemaking stuff (I love to bake bread, for instance, but it's kind of a pain to do with a bunch of little kids underfoot). I'd also like to volunteer more with my church and the kiddos' schools. And to get to romp with hubby in the middle of the day. (He works at home. ;> But it's important to me that I be here before and after school, even when the kids are teens.
post #24 of 147
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Originally Posted by onlyzombiecat
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
2. How old are you?
3. How old is your oldest child?
4. How old is your youngest child?
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
I've been SAHM for two and a half years.

My oldest living child is 24 months.

My youngest are still in utero!

Do you mean intensive, one-on-one time? Maybe about 21 hours? It's hard to say exactly.

I actually teach a class twice a week, so I'm away from home about 8 hours a week. Also, DD spends an hour with DH outside in the late afternoons most days, so that I can take a nap. That's just because I'm pregnant and exhausted with it, though.

My favorite part of being a SAHM is being able to be right beside DD as she grows up, but I also enjoy the slower pace of life that we enjoy with me staying home.

My biggest frustration is that I have found it really hard to meet other mamas nearby who are home during the day. I am not a naturally outgoing person, and a lot of the mamas I have met have either lived too far away for regular hanging out, or have been far too mainstream for us to have much in common.

I am not sure how long I plan on SAHMing. It depends on what schooling decisions we make for our kids. I may be home just until the twins start school, or I may be home for much, much longer than that if we decide to keep them home.

Someday I'd like to get a special ed certificate and teach children with emotional or behavioral challenges. I used to be a regular classroom teacher, and I enjoy working with challenging children. I think I have the patience to do it well.
post #25 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM?

for six years, 7 months

2. How old are you?

42

3. How old is your oldest child?

6.7

4. How old is your youngest child?

she's turning three

5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?

dd#1 is in school daily from 8-2, dd #2 is in preschool for four hours a week-aside from those times they're always with me.

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?

when they're in school

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?

I crave solo time when not mothering-gardening, cooking, yoga, reading, hiking, swimming

8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?

being here

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?

doing so much by myself-no family nearby, dh who travels/works a lot. but, this is what I signed up for and wanted, so I do not complain!

10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?

as long as it feels right for us!

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?

we'll see!
post #26 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
2 1/2 years -- I quit my job when I was 3 mo pg with DD.

2. How old are you?
30, I'll be 31 in December.

3. How old is your oldest child?
She turns 2 9/23.

4. How old is your youngest child?
21 wks & due mid-January!

5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?
Um...all of it pretty much? Seriously, I'm with DD from the time she wakes until bedtime. DH helps out when he's home on lunch & in the evenings, but I'm still around. He'll occasionally take her to the park or something in the evening for an hour or so. About once a month she'll spend a night or two at one of our parent's house.

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?
See #5

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?
Do you mean personally or with my kids? For personal stuff I regularly enjoy reading, catching a good TV show or documentary, taking long hot baths, spending time at MDC, and sleeping. For stuff with DD, there aren't really any "regular" activities we do. No great playgroups in our area unfortunately. We usually go out to do errands once a week or so, go to the park or beach to play, go visit my Mom or my grandparents, but it really varies from week to week.


8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
Never having to worry about childcare or how my kid is being taken care of. Having the time to care for our home the way I feel it should be cared for. The freedom to make our schedule and not have to deal with asking permission every time I want to go do something for a day.

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
I'm naturally a pretty introverted person, so having to be with someone and be "on" all day is pretty tiring. Also, dealing with people who just don't get what it's like to be a SAHM at all. Luckily I don't have too many of those folks in my life!

10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
Until my kids are grown & out of the house. We plan to homeschool at least through elementary school and possibly beyond, so that really rules out 2 of us being WOH parents.

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
I am taking classes online starting in Nov. Trying to decide if I want to work on my Masters or get my Childbirth Ed/Doula certificate. I don't mind the idea of working, but it has to be something I can do in the evenings or on DH's days off.

Holly
post #27 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM? almost 5 years
2. How old are you? 34
3. How old is your oldest child? almost 5
4. How old is your youngest child? almost 2
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week? all but about 2 hours
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children? 2 hours average per week
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly? homeschooling co-op, women's spirituality group, UU church, women's singing/drumming/dancing group, la leche league
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM? not missing the moments with my girls, like when dd1 learned to read, or when dd2 is learning new words
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM? financially it sucks
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM? i think until kids are 12 or older
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life? i wanna be a realtor, counselor and ballroom dance instructor
post #28 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM? A little under 3.5 years.

2. How old are you? 38

3. How old is your oldest child? 13.5 years

4. How old is your youngest child? 13.5 months

5. How much time do you spend with your children each week? All of it, really.

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children? DS1 is at school five days a week. Other than that, I sometimes do a grocery run and leave them with dh. I'm going to start singing with a choir on Tuesday nights - that'll be about another 2.5 hours/week away from them.

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly? Reading, working out...that's about it. I like taking the kids to the local farm, too. I'm really hoping this choir thing will work for me.

8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
I can't put it in words. I missed this with ds1, and I'm just loving the whole experience.

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
Feeling like a I suck at it, and having a messy house.

10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
I'm not exactly sure. We're planning to homeschool, so it will be a while.

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
I have no idea. I've never had any plans, even before I was a SAHM.
post #29 of 147
interesting Q's!
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Originally Posted by onlyzombiecat
1. How long have you been a SAHM?

Since April 2002.


2. How old are you?

32
3. How old is your oldest child?

9

4. How old is your youngest child?

3

5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?

All of the time aside from my #6 answers

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?

oldest is in public school
3x a week we go to the Y, I exercise and the younger boys are in the nursery for an hour
2-3x a month I take a pilates class and am out of the house w/out all the kids for 2 hours-- I think that's the only time I am actually in the car by myself!

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?

We attend a playgroup that I enjoy, I don't attend any groups on my own. Personal time activities I enjoy: reading, camping, sewing.

8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?

I love being with my kids most of the day, watching them grow and change, getting to see the tiny differences from moment to moment

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?

Lack of a support system. I'm very shy and introverted and as my kids get older I feel forced to be social a lot.
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?

If we continue public schooling I'll get a PT job when they are all in school if I can find one that is flexible enough to be home when the kids are and allow me time to volunteer in their classes. If we move to homeschooling I'll be home for a long time

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?

I'd love to become a midwife...we'll see if that is in the cards down the road!
post #30 of 147
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Originally Posted by onlyzombiecat
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
Almost 2 years
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2. How old are you?
36
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3. How old is your oldest child?
Almost 2.
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4. How old is your youngest child?
Expected to join us in January
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5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?
Pretty much all of it.
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6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?
Probably about 2 or 3 hours, on average. When my husband takes our daughter for a walk, and/or when I go out in the evening to volunteer meetings.
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7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?
I play board games once a week with friends, am involved in volunteer work for the local library, La Leche League, and our local Attachment Parenting group. I go to several playgroups a week, and of course I attend La Leche League and AP group meetings.
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8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
I like knowing that I'm providing my daughter with experiences I consider important, and which I think it would be difficult for her to obtain otherwise.
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9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
Figuring out how to keep the house from being a complete pigsty. I'm not a neatnik at all, but I do find it frustrating that things degenerate so quickly.
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10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
I have no particular plans to stop being a SAHM as long as I have kids living at home. I suppose I might do some part-time work once they're in school, but I might also just step up my volunteer work. We'll see.
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11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
I don't really have any. I'll be in my mid-fifties when the kids are in college, and I have no idea what I might like to do at that point!
post #31 of 147
Quote:
Originally Posted by onlyzombiecat
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
2. How old are you?
3. How old is your oldest child?
4. How old is your youngest child?
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
1. Since i was 5 months pregnant.
2. 24.
3. 17 months.
4. N/A
5. Every minute except rare occasions when dh keeps him.
6. Usually none.
7. I'm in an awesome AP mommy group. We meet twice a week. I also enjoy family activities on weekends. I love to read.
8. Being very attached to my son snd not missing anything. Not having to work outside the home.
9. Not having much time for myself.
10. I don't know. Hopefully until my kid (and future kids) leave home. I would like to go back to school in a few years.
11. I don't really know. I would like to finish my schooling. Hopefully I'll be able to write and travel and not have to work for anyone but myself.
post #32 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM?

9.5 years. I WOH when my oldest ds was a baby

2. How old are you?

41
3. How old is your oldest child?

10
4. How old is your youngest child?

5


5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?

Almost all the time they are not in school

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?

8-2:30 when they are in school.

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?

I need new activities now my kids are older

8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?

being with the kids

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?

not having a break, no appreciation

10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?

as long as I can

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?

I want to WAH. I'm not sure what I want to do though.
post #33 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
21 months
2. How old are you?
almost 36
3. How old is your oldest child?
21 months
4. How old is your youngest child?
n/a
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?
24/7 except as bellow
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?
2-3 hours
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?
running, Weight Watchers, church
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
really knowing DS and being there for him for whatever he needs
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
making the most of everyday instead of wasting too much time
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
until DS is finished with school
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
I'd like to learn more about organic gardening.
post #34 of 147
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Originally Posted by mata
2. How old are you?

42
Oh thank god! I was starting to get freaked out about being so much older than everyone else! I'm 41 1/2

Next month my oldest child turns 10, and I will celebrate 10 years of being a SAHM. I also have an 8 1/2 year old.

5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?

lots. My DDs homeschool and my DH travels a lot.

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?

not much. sometimes I go out for a few hours on my own on the weekend

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?

reading, sewing, gardening, walking the dogs, Mothering.com

8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?

spending time with my kids. Now they they are older I really like the relaxed life style, but I didn't find it "relaxed" when they were little.

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?

I'm really burned out on doing things for other people's children (which I get pressured to do since I'm a *just* a SAHM with *only* 2 kids) and I'm therefore taking this year off from being a girl scout leader, organizing stuff for homeschool group, watching other people's kids after school, etc. Last year was very icky for me so I'm doing things differently this year.

10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?

long term

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?

that's a fuzzy area, but it feels like it is far away. I was in my 30's when I had kids so I'd already done a lot of things that I wanted to (education, career, etc.)
post #35 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM? 5 years
2. How old are you? 29
3. How old is your oldest child? 5
4. How old is your youngest child? 2 1/2
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week? Lots!
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children? 10-12 hours?
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly? Working out, church activities..
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM? Being with my kids and knowing what is going on with them all the time!
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM? I get lonely..
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM? Until my kids go to college (we're homeschooling)
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life? I'll go back to crisis pregnancy center work!
post #36 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM? 3.5 years
2. How old are you? 40.5 but I did the real age test and my real age is 35.1
3. How old is your oldest child? 3.5
4. How old is your youngest child? only have one
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week? almost 24-7 daily
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children? occasionally run errands by self or have massage appt.
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly? MOMS club, yoga
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM? I like that dd is being raised with one of her parents home at all times; as opposed to daycare or nanny where stranger would be in charge (or relative if one was so lucky)
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM? Money
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM? As long as we can make it work
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life? I will have to go back to work at some point but as long as dd is in school, it will be part time only, as a substitute teacher or in a part time teaching position.
post #37 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
Almost 4 years
2. How old are you?
24
3. How old is your oldest child?
3.5 years
4. How old is your youngest child?
#2 expected to arrive next month
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?
24/7
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?
Very rarely does dd go off alone with DH, maybe once a month they go swimming for an hour
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?
I'm a LLL leader, it keeps me busy
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
Being there for dd
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
Finding enought time to do everything
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
Until all my dc are grown
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
DH should be close to retiring then, so we'll come up with something fun.
post #38 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM?

3.5 years this time around (5yrs with DS1)

2. How old are you?

40

3. How old is your oldest child?

13.5

4. How old is your youngest child?

9mo

5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?

milk bar is open 24/7

6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?

people are allowed to spend time away from their children?

7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?

LLL ( with DS2), monthly mom's group with both DD and DS2

8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?

knowing that i get to share the best and worst moments of my childrens day

9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?

finding other like minded SAHM's to hang out with. MDC is great but no substitute for adult company, on the other hand alone time is something i crave too!

10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?

forever - or as long as they need me

11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?

living on a lake, raising goats, swimming every day, sailing round the world - oh sorry you asked for plans not dreams..........
post #39 of 147
1. How long have you been a SAHM? One month
2. How old are you? 36
3. How old is your oldest child? 4.5
4. How old is your youngest child? 4.5 (same kid)
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week? [24 hours in a day x 7 days = 168. school :8:30 - 3:30 = 7 hours x 5 days/week = 35. 168-35 = 133. subtract from that oh, say 8 hours per night of sleeping for 7 nights or 56 hours.] 77 hours minus Daddy Time.
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children? 35 hours at school + 56 hours sleep = 91 hours (we don't cosleep anymore)
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly? www.sewingmamas.com :
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM? Today? Field trips to the beach to explore tide pools.
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM? Not rubbing it in.
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM? at least until Lydia is out of high school. I may get a part time job at some point, but never if it interferes with her.
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life? Not sure yet. I still have 13 years to worry about it. Maybe I'll get a job at the fabric store.
post #40 of 147
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Originally Posted by onlyzombiecat
1. How long have you been a SAHM?
2. How old are you?
3. How old is your oldest child?
4. How old is your youngest child?
5. How much time do you spend with your children each week?
6. How much time do you spend each week away from your children?
7. What activities or groups do you enjoy regularly?
8. What do you like best about being a SAHM?
9. What is your biggest frustration or challenge as a SAHM?
10. How long do you plan on being a SAHM?
11. What are your plans for your post SAHM life?
1. 14 months
2. 24
3. 14 months
4. same, one kid!
5. um, 24/7? lol I do take breaks to pump (I EP) so about 40 minutes per day, DH will have her alone
6. none
7. going to the beach, going out to eat, various parties with friends/family
8. the intense attachment, the knowledge of everything she's done, the ability to help her learn and grow and parent her exactly the way I want to.
9. I sometimes wonder if she needs more time with other children, which we'll be focusing on after her next cleft palate surgery
10. not sure. AT LEAST another 4 years. I'm 95% sure I'll be homeschooling.
11. I hope to work part time once I feel DD is ready- could be 5 yrs, could be 10 or 15. we'll see. DD is special needs so it's not clear when or if she'll be living on her own as an adult.

so, I could be a SAHM forever. And I'd feel honored to do that for her. But I'm sure at some point I'll be able to work part time at least.
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