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post #101 of 119
not much time...

ds1 is almost 4 and started sleeping better after 3. at 2 he started choosing the mattress on the floor in his room (choice was a fun part of bedtime and we never commented)...well, he'd go back and forth but doesn't co-sleep well since ds2 arrived (ds2 was noisy as a baby and ds1 is noisy when he does wake up).

anyway, ds1 is in own room, but needs dh in there most nights.

ds2 (almost 18 mo) has started sleeping better since I have refused to nurse every 45 min all night (he's pretty mellow and just fussed a little while I sang, patted, etc. until he went back to sleep...not as insistent as ds1 was) he takes a pacifier for sleep and the car and so he has something to suck on to keep him calm...so he's nursing every 3-4 hours instead of every 45 min right now

ds1 just had major surgery and it's completely messed up his sleep and he's high needs/spirited so once he's up...watch out!! he lets everyone know it and has very specific requests, etc. we're hoping his brain works out the problem soon b/c we're falling apart and he has huge red circles under his eyes most days

ANYWAY, I posted mainly to make some suggestions for the 3 yo's who are waking...mine really does need food and drink at night (dentist doesn't agree, but we've had no problems) we keep water in a straw-top cup right next to his bed and sometimes crackers and raisins. He would prefer milk, of course, but most nights were not up for a trip to the kitchen. On nights that he's in there by himself (right across the hall) and sleeps well, we will go in to find the snack gone and the water almost empty. His little face is often hanging off the side of the mattress (it's on the floor) like he fell asleep again eating.

He was a HORRIBLE sleeper and #2 came before he outgrew it...I haven't slept well in about 4 years...it's amazing that we're not more sick since ds1 really doesn't get (need?) much sleep about 8-9 hours...still up at the crack of dawn (usually earlier)...he just needed to outgrow the worst and now sleeps like a dream (does better with someone with him)

hope some of this makes sense!!
post #102 of 119
My 18 month old DD has always been a TERRIBLE sleeper. I have explored allergies since she started out colicky and we have had several other issues like CONSTANT runny noses and terrible, fitful sleeping, but so far we haven't been able to pinpoint anything. Even allergy meds didn't work so we stopped them. It has been frustrating. Her diet is more like many 6-8 month olds, not an 18 month old because she has reacted to common things like carrots and peas that are in so many things and I am afraid to give her too much of any highly allergic foods like wheat and I refuse to give her dairy (even though I eat some, I noticed that cutting that out of my diet did nothing to help her : ).

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I'm delirious. He eats plenty during the day, he wants to nurse near constantly at night. I don't mind nursing him during the night - it's the marathon "I'll scream if you remove your nipple from my mouth at any time" crap, and THE GROPING that drives me absolutely NUTS. He can. Not. Nurse. unless he is clawing at my other breast. I can't take it - the groping has been going on for almost a year. Seriously. I've tried every single trick in the book (and I had lots) to get him to stop, and it's impossible. So, night nursing keeps me 100% awake, fighting off his clawing, mauling hands.
I have tried the "Pantley pull-off" but when she is like this, it just doesn't work. I get so frustrated some nights. My back and hips are sore a lot because of trying to stay in some position all night to have her stay latched on. I have scratches on me from the constant clawing and pinching and groping. I am at my wits end with this. This morning, I woke to a nasty pinch to my nip! OUCH! :

I'm always looking for an answer. This is my 4th child and I have never seen anything like this. DH is ADAMANT that there will be no more.
post #103 of 119
i've been trying a new trick with dd2 (23mos), my current clawer/groper. she's recently become enamored of dolls, so i make sure she cuddles one under her arm when we start nursing. when she starts to go at me i tell her to "tickle millicent, not mama," and she mostly complies.
post #104 of 119
I am also a member of this tribe. My now 13 month old has been a terrible sleeper since 3 weeks old. He wouldn't nap unless he was ON me when he was that little. Then I started to be able to nurse him to sleep on my bed and leave him, until he woke 45 mins later when I would have to run in and nurse him back to sleep. When he started getting mobile, I put a mattress on the side of our bed with a pack n play blocking the end; make-shift crib on the floor so to speak. He takes naps there and if I can get him to sleep at night before we are ready for bed, he sleeps there for a little while. Same routine though generally - nurse to sleep and go back in 45 mins later. Sometimes I am there for an hour.

He went to one nap a day at 9 months and wakes numerous times a night. I am afraid to get pregnant again and have to figure out how to sleep then...we are going to wait until this summer, so hopefully he will be a little better. I am planning on weaning him somewhere around then.

He's an incredibly active guy during the day too. He doesn't have any food allergies, but he does get gas sometimes at night. He is also worse when teething (and that seems to be a constant). Poor little guy!
post #105 of 119
Can it be true? My crappy sleeper has only woke me twice the past two nights - TWO DAYS IN A ROW. I won't count my chickens before they'e hatched though, I don't think I'll abdicate myself from this tribe until my ds goes a MONTH without waking my multiple times a night...... :
post #106 of 119
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but he does get gas sometimes at night. He is also worse when teething (and that seems to be a constant).
dd still gets gassy at night, sometimes, too. It is frustrating at her age. And I hear you about the teething! My first 3 babies didn't seem to have much issue with teething, but dd will seem to take FOREVER to teethe and then just when you think that things are getting better, it seems to start bugging her again! :
post #107 of 119
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dd still gets gassy at night, sometimes, too. It is frustrating at her age. And I hear you about the teething! My first 3 babies didn't seem to have much issue with teething, but dd will seem to take FOREVER to teethe and then just when you think that things are getting better, it seems to start bugging her again! :
Yeah - he's only just getting his 5th tooth poking through now, and it's been coming (with 3 others that still haven't poked through yet) for about 3 months now (and that is just the part I know about - where it's been just below the skin). Poor guy! I really wish I could do something to help with that.
post #108 of 119


any new members out there?

are the rest of us too tired to type?

my crappy sleeper#1 (5yo) is sleeping well lately, hardly any nightmares, and even manages to get up and go to the bathroom with verbal coaching "mama's right here, i'll tuck you in when you get back," instead of physical presence lately. i'm very grateful because it's been too cold to get up!

and pseudo crappy sleeper#2 has popped a molar (before her 2nd b'day, not exactly "2 yr molars" for this early teether), and gone back to giving me 4-6 hours uninterrupted, so long as i go to sleep with her at 8ish.

how's everybody doing?
post #109 of 119
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post #110 of 119
Thread Starter 
My son (the original crappy sleeper as I started this tribe!) slept for crap the past 3 nights, but last night he gave us 9 hours. The only problem is that I'm going on 38 weeks pregnant and all I want to do is go to bed and sleep. I feel like I could sleep all day and all night and still not feel rested. And DS is just SO active and energetic all day, it makes me tired thinking about it... just not sure what we're going to do once the baby is born. I'm still holding out hope that baby will sleep better than he does...
post #111 of 119
OMG I totally understand. I just posted about getting my 8mo into a crib cuz we're TTC and he's NOT a good sleeper. He's slept thru the night once. I still nurse him about 5 times a night. Plus he tosses and turns and fusses in his sleep....
post #112 of 119
my dd gave us a couple good nights last week and it was amazing! The past two nights in a row though, she's been waking up at 3 am wanting to play! : DH and I have just been ignoring her but god I hope this passes soon!
post #113 of 119
My son is still having issues. He was doing better, but then teething started again in a MAJOR way. He is 14 months old, and 5 new teeth are now poking through (including a molar) and 3 more molars are just under the swollen surface. And his eye teeth are now moving, poor guy! He gets more congested and then doesn't want to nurse (or wants to but it hurts ) so he has a really hard time. I feel so bad for him. Hopefully it will pass soon though and things will get better for a bit.
post #114 of 119
My boy still isn't sleeping well. (I first posted nearly 5 months ago!) I have all the books, I've tried all the tricks . . . . I've resigned myself to the fact that he'll sleep when he's ready whether I help him or not. We can't even consider having another child until then. :

I'm tired.
post #115 of 119
Count me in. Ds has been a terrible sleeper since the beginning. We moved him to his own bed around Christmastime, and he did well initially but now has started waking up 4-6x a night again. When I first nightweaned him (27 mos) he did great until we moved to another state-then he was okay as long as he was sleeping next to me-then I went to WOH and he started waking up more, then the toddler bed has done the trick and I am back to my terrible sleeper.
I really thought it would be better by now!
post #116 of 119
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My boy still isn't sleeping well. (I first posted nearly 5 months ago!) I have all the books, I've tried all the tricks . . . . I've resigned myself to the fact that he'll sleep when he's ready whether I help him or not. We can't even consider having another child until then. :

I'm tired.
This is EXACTLY us, except my son is 2 months younger. I can't even handle the thought of the next one yet because of the way he doesn't sleep. I am sorry you are in the same boat as I am.
post #117 of 119
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my dd gave us a couple good nights last week and it was amazing! The past two nights in a row though, she's been waking up at 3 am wanting to play! : DH and I have just been ignoring her but god I hope this passes soon!
DS used to do that... it went on every night for months and months and months!!! NOTHING helped us except the passage of time. He still wakes up but fortunately he will go back to "sleep" (if you can count kicking the bed, kicking us, yelling and flailing sleep...). I have a friend whose daughter would be awake from 1-5 EVERY SINGLE NIGHT... then she would sleep in LATE, then would take a REALLY long nap late in the afternoon and wash, rinse and repeat.
post #118 of 119
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DS used to do that... it went on every night for months and months and months!!! NOTHING helped us except the passage of time.
OMG don't tell me that! Months! I don't think I could handle it!
post #119 of 119
Checking in! I wil spare you the details but he's 2.5 and we are still putting him down in our bed and staying there until he falls alseep. Then we sneak away and pray for an hour or two before his 1st wake up.

Luckily he;s become easier to get down but sleeping with this child is a nightmare and I was SO totally FOR cosleeping My husband is still in love with the whole thing but I am sleeping on the futon in the playroom most nghts while DH and the babe get my $2500 Select Comfort bed I begged for. Pfffft.

We dragged his toddler bed in ourr room tonight. he screamed about it but maybe he'll start getting used to it.
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