I've had 2 up/uc and one hosp birth transferred from homebirth because the mw's wanted to go home. Honestly I feel society's attitudes to women's bodies in general is bad news and am not enlightened or made to feel secure by the medical establishments(and much of society's) narrow-minded views on childbirth and our bodies in general. It seems demeaning and cruel some of the stuff they get up to when we are in the vulnerable( yet powerful) state of pregnancy and childbirth. I felt healed after uc, I knew I could do it yet was made to feel irresponsable and selfish, for me childbirth is a private,intimate, magical event and my hospital birth was more like a conveyor belt ride, fending off unwanted/unneccesary debasement rituals, infantilized(bad girl not doing what she is told) and general sexual humiliation. Apparently to a lot of people even feeling those feelings is in their view pathetic. But so what, plastic people in a plastic world mean nothing to me, what does matter to me is women having the right to birth freely and it would appear that fear and doubt are used to control us further, imo childbirth is a very political issue, our choices are so often dismissed, ignored and over-ruled. More support for uc and hb is essential and I have been greatly encouraged by what I have read on mdc, one size doesn't fit all though and I didn't want anyone with me when I uc'd, thats just me,I didn't want internals, instucted pushing, stupid pads shoved at me or my children miles away. I understand that other women differ in what they are comfortable with and see no reason why supportive people could not be available to help if needed rather than take over and possibly instill fear. Childbirth seems to come with a menu these days and I have to accept that some women would actually choose to have a cs for no actual reason or be induced cos the doc says so and again no actual reason, that is bizarre and sad, there is a perceptable retaliation against natural cb as though it's too primitive and maybe a tad distaseful. Weird.
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9/20/06 at 6:10pm