Lying about due date?

[ColinsMommy]

We've only told a couple friends that I'm preggo, no family yet. When we do share the news with family, I'm seriously thinking about telling them I'm due in June! I'm actually due in early May, but will probably go late...

Anyway, with my last pregnancy, starting about a month before my due date, MIL would call us Every. Single. Day. just to see if I was in labor yet, no matter how many times we told her to stop. I didn't give birth until almost 2 weeks AFTER my due date, so it got really old. A lot of times we wouldn't answer the phone, but it's still incredibly annoying!

I would feel bad about lying, especially since we would also have to lie to other people so MIL wouldn't find out the truth, but it's SOO tempting!!!

Anyone else in the same boat?

[momto l&a]

I seem to carry my babies past their 'due date'. It isn't much of a problem with my currant mw unless I go over 43 then the state causes her some grief.

I am not sure if we are moving or not yet and don't know what California's laws are on going over so I may fudge a bit on my dates.

[angelpie545]

I'm actually thinking about doing that myself when I get pregnant again. I went two weeks past my due date both times and both times my midwives were stressing about it .

[LKath]

Yes! When I start to tell people, I'm going to say "mid-May", when the date is actually May 2. Last pregnancy, I was SO tired of people calling me to ask, "any baby yet?". Uh, no, would I be answering my phone AT WORK if there was a baby? : I'm still not over being mad about it and my ds is 2! We haven't told anyone about this pregnancy yet, when my DH asked me the due date, I wouldn't tell him until he promised not to tell anyone. All I had to do was remind him of his mother's never-ending phone calls.

[Rico'sAlice]

My official DD is May 14 and I have been saying "late May." I also mention that FTMs average 10 days overdue, so it could be later.

[jakesmama]

When we do tell people I think we'll say late May/early June. The exact date is May 22nd ...but I'm even trying to forget that. So my answer is, yep, I would stretch the date out and even "lie" to myself!

Now, my son came 5 weeks early so I hope this bean holds out a little longer. Imagine telling everyone it's an early June baby and having the babe in early April! I wouldn't want people to needlessly worry about the kiddo.

[chrissy]

My midwife is okay with my being late so I'll tell her the correct date. I'm seeing an OB right now though because of my history of miscarriage and I know I am going to have to keep reminding them that I ovulated on cd18 rather than cd14. I thought about fudging the first day of my LMP so they wouldn't get confused but I ended up just telling them the truth.

Random strangers I'll just say that I'm due at "the end of May," which is true.

[purplepeace]

I considered lying as well. My cycle is 32 days so if we use the wheel method my due date is several days earlier than adjusting for the cycle length. I'm a first time mom so now that I'll probably go past the due date anyway. I really want a homebirth and abhor the thought of being induced in a hospital so while I've been truthful with the homebirth mws, I'm thinking that I may fudge a little with my MD. Not sure. The parents and ILs know the adjusted due date (May 4) but I think I'm going to start telling people mid May just to be on the safe side!

[mightymoo]

I'm thinking of fudging my dates a bit. Both my kids were 2+ weeks late, and both c/s. This one will be a scheduled c/s, but I don't want to do it at 39 weeks - that would be 3 weeks early as far as I'm concerned. i'm thinking of fudging my dates 1 week and then standing my ground with the OB to do it at 40 weeks, so that way it will be only 1 week earlier than it 'should' have been.

I was going to fudge my dates last pregnancy but I got nervous and ended up not doing it. :P

[wildthing]

I am due late April, 6 of my 8 babies have been a week or so late, so I could be having this one in May. I certainly do not consider being vague as lying about my due date. I will just say "Probably around the end of April or beginning of May" My last one, I said "Sometime in June." It was GREAT! He was one of my early babes, but I still loved not focusing on a specific date.

[wildthing]

Oh, I meant to say, it aggravated a lot of people to not have a date. They would say "Oh, haven't you had an u/s?" I said it doesn't matter what an u/s says, babies come when they are ready.

[GuavaLava]

I thought about lying to the midwife/doctor in the event I had a late O but I ovulated on CD15 so I don't really have a reason to lie.

[Adamsmama]

I've been telling people my actual due date when they ask but all of my family and really close friends I've told that I would probably be atleast one week late. I was 7 days past my edd with DS1 and 8 days past with DS2.

[Luv2bemommy]

I have thought about doing this, just so I would get an extra 2 weeks to be pregnant.. I'm still thinking about it IF I have to have my baby in the hospital.

[Palmetto210]

I am going to add several days to my "lmp". We have been charting for 6 years, and I always ovulate around day19-21, so of course, using the pg wheel is not accurate for me. Despite bringing 4 yrs of charts to my mw and showing that I knew the exact date of conception w/ pg #1, I was still heavily pushed for an induction. I delivered with a mw at a hospital so they're pretty constrained by hospital policy. Thankfully, natural labor started the night before I would have been induced. Dd was a strong , healthy 8lb 4oz.

I learned my lesson last time.

[clavicula]

Originally Posted by Palmetto210

I am going to add several days to my "lmp". We have been charting for 6 years, and I always ovulate around day19-21, so of course, using the pg wheel is not accurate for me. Despite bringing 4 yrs of charts to my mw and showing that I knew the exact date of conception w/ pg #1, I was still heavily pushed for an induction. I delivered with a mw at a hospital so they're pretty constrained by hospital policy. Thankfully, natural labor started the night before I would have been induced. Dd was a strong , healthy 8lb 4oz.

I learned my lesson last time.

oh, you just gave me the greatest idea! i ovulated on CD21 so my due date is 3rd May, but according to my lmp, my due date is 27th Apr.
of course i will lie, because docs like to induce sooo much! :

[Anguschick1]

W/ds1 I didn't know any better and told everyone my due date. Learned my lesson.

With ds2 I was w/a new practice and used it as an opportunity to tell people that my docs didn't believe in a due date, they used "due range" and I'd say early/mid Sept. (I was due, end of Aug) People really scratched their heads over docs not insisting on a due date - it was kind of funny.

[jessitron]

don't know what California's laws are on going over

It is insane that this is determined by state law and policy.

I'll lie to the doctor, when I get around to going, much like some of the pp. Lie to get the correct due date.

But to the op - sucks to have to fudge by a month just to fend off one pestering relative. But I would do it.

[namaste_mom]

This is a great post because I am going to stretch the truth a bit also. I live in a state where midwives are illegal (yes, illegal, its horrible). Even though my OB is the most liberal in the area, she got a bit "panicy" when I reached my "due date" last time and wanted to schedule and induction to which I told her she could just wait, if I could wait. She also kept wanting the check my "progress' during the last month to see if I was dilating and was a bit miffed when I told her no, I didn't want to know (no vaginal exams). So, I was thinking about pushing back my last period date. I had my period on the 7th with short cycles (25 days). So that gives me a little wiggle room. I was thinking of telling her that I had it on the 10th or 12th to give the baby more time without her pressuring me to schedule an induction.

[sapphire_chan]

Popping in from outside to comment that with your OBs/midwives you might want to only adjust your LMP so that it corresponds with your actual O date. Don't want them freaking out over your baby being under-developed for gestational age or anything.