Is their a tribe for moms who have kids who are very very challenging?
My DS has always been hard to deal with. He is loud, hyper, agressive, he never thinks before he acts, but he's also brilliant, happy, loving and sooo cute. I can handle him at home just fine, but it's around other people that I just can't deal with anymore. When he was younger we had problems with him bitting. I stopped taking him out of the house it got so bad. He is very loud in public places and does weird things like roll around on the ground and make odd noises, he just can't control himself. We tried putting him in soccer and it was a nightmare. He would kick and push down the other kids on the field and would just fall down and lay on the ground in the middle of the game. He goes to a great school who can deal with him but still I get the calls about him doing thing to the other kids with out thinking, like push them out of line or yelling at them.
We just had something happen on thursday that has upset me all weekend. The main thing is people try and lable DS a a bad kid.
Sorry this may get long...
There is a new girl at school who has never been to any type of school before and never been around any other children, mom is weird and kinda clueless about parenting. My DS yelled at her dd on thursday about something silly. When her DD got in the car she had a melt down and peed her pants and later told mom that my DS yelled at her so mom thinks this melt down was all my ds fault. But here is the rest of the story. First the teacher told me that the girl need to use the bathroom at school and wouldn't so she went through half the day and the bus ride home needing to go. Second when she got off the school bus mom was late picking her up so she had to stand and wait, I know that would have upset me when I was little. Third girl has never had a bedtime and is now having to get up very early and not sleeping well at night, plus she is having a very hard time adjusting to school and the other kids, and there are problems at home with dads job. So all these other things were also involved in her melt down. I know my DS should not have yelled at her and we delt with it. The teacher talked to him and we had him write a card saying he was sorry. The mom wanted me to drive him to her house that night so we could talk about it and I said no it was being delt with at school. Then the next day her dd was to sick to go to school. I feel like she is trying to put all of her dd's problems on my DS and I'm not going to let that happen. I can't deal with having to see her on monday.
I did have a long talk with the teacher about it and she said she was sorry the mom was acting like that and they know that it was not my ds fault she had the melt down.
Kids sometime yell at each other, right
? I know they shouldn't but they are young and still learning social skills. I don't know what else I can do to make the mom feel better. I just have to let it go.
Sorry this got so long. I mostly want to hear from other moms who have problems like this with their kids. When I'm dealing with these things I know it effects how I deal with ds. I snap at him more and feel angree.
My DS has always been hard to deal with. He is loud, hyper, agressive, he never thinks before he acts, but he's also brilliant, happy, loving and sooo cute. I can handle him at home just fine, but it's around other people that I just can't deal with anymore. When he was younger we had problems with him bitting. I stopped taking him out of the house it got so bad. He is very loud in public places and does weird things like roll around on the ground and make odd noises, he just can't control himself. We tried putting him in soccer and it was a nightmare. He would kick and push down the other kids on the field and would just fall down and lay on the ground in the middle of the game. He goes to a great school who can deal with him but still I get the calls about him doing thing to the other kids with out thinking, like push them out of line or yelling at them.
We just had something happen on thursday that has upset me all weekend. The main thing is people try and lable DS a a bad kid.
Sorry this may get long...
There is a new girl at school who has never been to any type of school before and never been around any other children, mom is weird and kinda clueless about parenting. My DS yelled at her dd on thursday about something silly. When her DD got in the car she had a melt down and peed her pants and later told mom that my DS yelled at her so mom thinks this melt down was all my ds fault. But here is the rest of the story. First the teacher told me that the girl need to use the bathroom at school and wouldn't so she went through half the day and the bus ride home needing to go. Second when she got off the school bus mom was late picking her up so she had to stand and wait, I know that would have upset me when I was little. Third girl has never had a bedtime and is now having to get up very early and not sleeping well at night, plus she is having a very hard time adjusting to school and the other kids, and there are problems at home with dads job. So all these other things were also involved in her melt down. I know my DS should not have yelled at her and we delt with it. The teacher talked to him and we had him write a card saying he was sorry. The mom wanted me to drive him to her house that night so we could talk about it and I said no it was being delt with at school. Then the next day her dd was to sick to go to school. I feel like she is trying to put all of her dd's problems on my DS and I'm not going to let that happen. I can't deal with having to see her on monday.
I did have a long talk with the teacher about it and she said she was sorry the mom was acting like that and they know that it was not my ds fault she had the melt down.
Kids sometime yell at each other, right
? I know they shouldn't but they are young and still learning social skills. I don't know what else I can do to make the mom feel better. I just have to let it go.Sorry this got so long. I mostly want to hear from other moms who have problems like this with their kids. When I'm dealing with these things I know it effects how I deal with ds. I snap at him more and feel angree.
