I just do not understand why some people fear the pain of labor and birth worse than being cut open 6 inches (or more!) across your abdomen and then into uterus. I described it to my mom as "being cut to the core- physically and emotionally."
Not to mention your flesh being clamped back and held open, and your uterus taken out and placed outside your body. They also have to move your bladder out of the way as well, and it can be very easily damaged as well.
Not to mention the anesthesia they have to administer- which is also risky. With my first c/s, my spinal wore off halfway through the procedure and I was so doped up with other stuff after that, I was barely there and actually hallucinating. They could not stop the bleeding for a while, and I was so out of it, the words "I am going to die" went through my head, only I did not care.
They also had to test me for a while afterward for heart damage, since the anesthesia caused my heart to do things during the c/s that it wasn't supposed to be doing. They feared I would have permanent heart damage.
My daughter was born with too much fluid in her, since she didn't go through the birth canal as she should've- they had to aggressively suction her- which to this day I believe is why she had food/eating aversions for her first 5 years of life, and nursing problems for her first 3 weeks of life.
They had my due date wrong and she was born 3.5 weeks early- and I believe she was not ready.
I was in such unbelievable pain afterward, that I didn't even get to change my own first baby's diaper for a whole week.
My nephew has a large scar on his ankle where his leg was cut while he was born (c/s). What if that had been on a much more delicate vulnerable part of his body?
I know that pain is scary, and that even with vaginal births there can be permanent damage that happens to a mama's body. I also know that some women's vaginal births are more difficult with more difficult recovery than a
But I just know that is the passage the baby is meant to go through: not extracted through a large incision in your body.
Sorry for the sob story, but to me having a c/s is a nightmare- which I lived and do have actual nightmares about.
I guess to women who have not had to go through a c/s, or has had an "easy one" they just can't understand.
But these are some of my reasons why I am determined to have my VBAC.