Not sleeping

[huskermommy]

Ok, I'm totally loosing it here! My 2 yr old daughter is not staying in her toddler bed to take a nap. She has mostly potty-learned and so I ask her to try on the potty before nap time and she sits and says she doesn't have to. I put her to bed and what does she do? Gets up and pees and poops all over. So I lost it. We only have 2 waterproof mattress covers and that was the last one. The other is in the wash from last night (a freak accident). So I put a new sheet on and put her back to bed. Yet again, she manages to pee A TON on her mattress. I was sooooooo mad at her! It doesn't help that I'm 29 wks pregnant with extremly horrible hip pain with my hormones all over the place! No matter what she won't stay in the bed to take a nap. I'm at a loss and don't know what to do. I could seriously just scream at her! I know it's bad but that's how I feel right now and I really need some positive feedback to help with this!

Thanks so much!

[pianojazzgirl]

To be honest it doesn't sound like she's quite ready to go without diapers at sleep time yet. If she doesn't resist wearing them I would just put her in them for naps and at night. I've seen some great training pants that would be more like undies and yet would be absorbant enough for any accidents. http://www.snap-ez.com/InfoAIOTrainers.html

ETA - sorry, I realized I didn't totally answer your question, which seems to be at least as much about her staying in bed at nap time. When we transitioned our dd to her own twin bed it did take quite some time and quite a few relapses before she would pretty consistently go to bed and stay in bed. I was just very consistant and very boring about always putting her right back in bed every time she got up. I also now give her a book to look at as she's falling asleep.

[Yooper]

Perhaps she is outgrowing naps? My dd did at age 2.

[huskermommy]

Well, last night and today were her first "accidents" at nap or bed time. Otherwise, she goes all night and during her naps just fine. I haven't used diapers in a really long time since that's kind of how I taught her. We just went with a naked butt all day until she got the hang of it. Then, after that we tried panties during the day and that worked well. So maybe she's upset about something? I don't know. I know she hasn't outgrown her nap just yet. They have been shorter though, only about an hour to an hour and a half long. Which is no big deal but maybe I need to push the time of her nap back a little. She doesn't have an exact time, but usually around noon. So maybe if I push it back to 1ish or so she'd be more ready to lay down? She's peacefully sleeping now though. I really think this has more to do with me than her. About 3mos. into the pregnancy, we stopped breastfeeding and afterwards I went through a serious depression. I still think it's because of all the hormones. I'm so much bitchier this pregnancy. So I can't wait to get some of those "feel good" hormones back again with the breastfeeding. I think I just take some things out on her and I feel aboslutely horrible for it! I really need to try and calm down instead of getting so upset!

Thank you ladies!

[alegna]

My dd is two also and I have rough days where she just drives me up the wall- I can't imagine how much harder it would be with pregnancy hormones! That said, I think your expectations are unrealistic. She's just two. Still a baby really.

good luck!

-Angela

[rmzbm]

None of my kids napped after they were maybe 6-7 month-ish. I agree with the poster who said she's likely outgrowing naps. Forcing a child to sleep will cause you problems with sleep down the road, I don't recommend doing it.

[Montessorimom8]

Originally Posted by Yooper

Perhaps she is outgrowing naps? My dd did at age 2.

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[Evan&Anna's_Mom]

Can you turn this into a positive time? At 29 weeks, surely YOU could use a nap too? If she won't stay in her bed alone, nap together (in your bed, I assume, since a toddler bed at that point in pregnancy would be my ultimate definition of torture!). With or without pullups for accident prevention. Sometimes "if you can't beat them, join them" makes a lot of sense to me.

[huskermommy]

Well, I think part of our problem may be that she has a red bottom for some reason. Not sure if it's laundry soap or something more serious. She gets yogurt everyday and I just gave her some cranberry juice. I'll have to keep on eye on it. So far, no accidents today. I let her decide when she has to go potty as to not put too much pressure on her. She actually does better when no one asks her if she has to go.

We use to co-sleep full-time but now she goes to bed in her room and then at some point during the night crawls into our bed. Last night she went to bed fine. I don't just leave her there, I sit and "cuddle" as she says with her until she falls asleep.

It is 12:15pm and she sitting next to me reading a magazine. She doesn't seem tired right now but we'll see what she's like at 1 or 1:30pm. If I don't give her a nap at all she gets really grumpy and to the point where she can't keep her eyes open. Then passes out at 4 or 5pm. I guess if she doesn't act tired I'll just keep her up the whole day. But then when should I let her fall asleep? 4 or 5pm just seems really early to go to bed for the night.

Thanks mamas!

[Yooper]

When dd declared one say that naps were not for her, I had the same concern over the 4-5pm time. What we did was to make sure soemthing really fun was going to happen during that time for a week or so. I picked that time to go to the park or visit a friend. It was not perfect because of course, she was tired. But after 1-2 weeks, she normalized and started going to bed earlier, sleeping later in the morning and skipping naps.

[huskermommy]

Thanks Yooper!
So what time does she go to bed and wake up?