forced bra wearing?-updates pg. 5 and 7 - Page 9

[deuxceleste]

any updates on this? I've been following this for forever!

i wanna know! i wanna know!

[2tadpoles]

Just wanted to say that I haven't read all the posts here. From there....

First, I'm not sure how big "full-grown, adult-sized" boobs are. I'm 35 years old and am barely an A-cup. I've known 11yo girls who are waaaay more developed than I am.

Secondly, if anyone thinks that wearing a bra is going to ward off ill-mannered boys, you're dead wrong. Like I said, I'm small chested. No boy ever grabbed at my chest in school. But I can't tell you how many times a hand has found its way to my rear end. I'm rather shapely in that area.

If your daughter wears jeans, boys will be checking out her butt. If she wears a skirt, they'll be looking at her legs. And yes, if she has anything in the chest area, they'll be looking there, too.

But the idea that girls are responsible for a boy's hormones, sickens me. That's pretty close to saying that girls who dress in a certain way are "asking for it"..... or that a girl who wears a short skirt deserves to be raped, because she provoked the male.

Lastly, I don't think a teacher has any right to tell students what kind of underwear to put on, no matter how the student is built. As long as nothing is see-through and stuff isn't hanging out, that's all that should matter.

[Nankay]

Hi All..
I'm the original poster. Nothing new to report, but we do have parent-teacher conferences in a couple of days, so I'll let you know if the teacher says anything more. Since the note, dd has been going braless even more. She now has 3 different styles and hates them all. I'm not forcing the issue and I'm not spending any more money buying something that will not be worn.

[deuxceleste]

WELL???

[Nankay]

Sorry..op here...

Conferences were Thursday and not a word was said. So I guess that's the end of it. Yay!

[deuxceleste]

[Catsinthecradle]

The teacher has no right to dictate the underwear your child wears, but I still wanted to add a bra comment.

When I was in the 6th grade, my mom decided that I needed to wear a "chemise" which was the top half of a slip. I refused, so she took me shopping for a bra. I was mortified by the experience - the sales lady, the chance that someone I knew would see me there... the whole thing.

I got my bras, complete with thin shoulder straps, and hooks in the back. I was not pleased. I went home and cried up on the hill with my rabbits.

Now, I wear racer back sport bras. As a matter of fact, I wear them instead of shirts. They come in all colors and designs, and slip on and off easily. I usually get them at Ross, so they don't cost much. I like a compacted look; I can't stand bouncing boobs... but that's just me.

[HerthElde]

Wow, I just read the whole thread and I'm glad you stood up for your dd I think society really needs to get over its fear of nipples . . .
Plus, bras cause sagging, despite our conditioning to believe it prevents it. Underwire bras are the worst for soooooo many reasons, imo.

Personally, I do wear a sports bra sometimes when I'm out in public in certain situations because even though I don't feel I need one logically, my conditioning has yet to catch up with my logic