mamajody, not to pick on you, but one thing you said really bugged me.
Originally Posted by mamajody
What affect do you think seeing the girls underwaer had on the boys.
I know you probably didn't mean a thing by it, but I am just sitting here thinking -- why should we teach our girls that boys' thoughts, feelings, and/or actions have a thing to do with how they choose to dress? If I choose to dress a certain way, and it affects a male in a certain way, it's not my fault. It is HIS choice to be affected, to have whatever thoughts he has. The way I dress, including whether or not to wear a bra or for my underwear to show (although I don't do the thong out of the pants thing anyway), is something that I do for myself, my own comfort, my own sense of style, whatever. It seems to be not a far cry from "Well, she deserved to be assaulted; she dressed like a slut!"
I just don't think it's a good idea to put other people's hangups onto our daughters like that. Especially when you can dress "appropriately" and keep your early-developing breasts in a bra, your age-appropriate underwear well hidden, and your developing body completely covered by shapeless clothing, and some boys are still going to tease, grope, or otherwise inappropriately harrass a girl. It really isn't about what she is or isn't wearing, kwim?